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writes: Well i have been at this company for a few years.. i always thought this one guy was good looking and had a good personality as well.. he is pretty popular in the office..does get attention and i am very quiet.I have been kind of down lately at work, not looking good more than usual..different problems going on..he actually approached me casually one day and asked are u ok? and i said yea and he was like are you sure, you promise? and i didn't really say anything to thatWe went out last week with coworkers. Towards the end of the evening he approached me and said something and then said do i want to do a shot and i said sure..so we wind up at the bar by ourselves..it looked like most of the coworkers left..it seems like he was attracted to me..he placed his hand on my back once, leaned in closer when i couldnt hear what he was saying where he was pretty close to my mouth...We got to talking and we eventually went back to hang out a his place. I have been there before as a group thing so i didn't feel uncomfortable. We did wind up making out. And i guess now i have a crush on him.This was over a month ago and nothing has happened since. Sometimes I think we give each other a look like maybe we are attracted to each other. But maybe a look doesn't mean much too much.Well there was another coworker outing but this place is a little different where there isn't any beer pong etc..so it is everyone sitting around/standing around talking.I did sit next to him at times but it was still like a group thing so we didn't really get to openly talk about what happened or anything. I did feel a little disappointed. While sitting next to him at one point our knees were kind of touching but i think that might have been coincidence.Another thing that happened was i ran into a few guys i know from my neighborhood who are more my brothers friends. So i went over to say hi and spoke with them for about 20 minutes or so. Maybe he saw that and just didn't care or maybe he was a little jealous. I am guessing it was the first one. I went back to my area and after awhile those guys were getting ready to leave but while passing by one stopped so i came over to see what he had to say and then the other stopped (at this point i think the guy i like saw this because it was in the area of our coworkers) and they were saying i am welcome to come to the next place and i said ok, i will text them.I didn't leave my coworkers for another hour. We wound up at a club and i felt like it would be awkward to dance with him so we kind of avoided each other and danced with other coworkers. I took a break for awhile. A little while later he came over and put his arm around me and this other person. But still he could have tried talking to me more in private at this point or something right? Or if he was really curious maybe he would asked who those guys were. I kind of got fed up a little..while on the dance floor i noticed he went to the mens room. At that point i decided to leave and said goodbye went to hang out with those other guys and feel more relaxed i guess. So i didn't get to say goodbye to my crush but i guess it wouldn't have matted anyway right? Maybe i need to more aggressive with him? i could have pretended i was using the bathroom and try to run into him and say goodbye in private and see what would happen?I guess maybe i need to let this crush go? what am i supposed to do? sit in his lap so he knows i like him? lol
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (25 August 2010):
 Were you drunk the first night? Or was he? It sounds like he wanted to cheer you up a bit that's why he offered the shot and showed you a little attention. The aftermath of it, he probably felt a little awkward that happened hence why he hasn't said much about it or asked you out. You're looking into it too much, the possible look, knees touching, or his arm around you and a co-worker. He's not shy, if he was into you then he would've asked you out already. But he's not, sorry.
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