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writes:Ok i hang out with a group of people, not to many but its a nice little group, 2 of them are a couple but theres me and this guys thats known each other a while. I used to invite him out. But i dont even feel like he respects me as a friend.Its just we'll go out and he;ll sit down and make conversatation with the others, as you would anyone. He'll make the effort to stary a conversatation and he;ll jsut sit there talking about anything. If one of them goes out he'll follow n continue talking. But to me i he will say the odd thing and then go quiet. I try my best i ask him anything i can think of such as how things are going, and his job, life, music, the lot you name it i;ve tried but he just answers and make no effort to continue the converstation. GEs honestly one of the kindest people ever, everyone says it, he'll be friendly but when i try and talk if theres others there he wont make any effort back, he wont even sit alone with me for 5mins just for a catch up. I thouht we were friends and it hurts because i know i've done nothing. He hangs around them now no problem has fun but i wouldnt even get spoken to from him if i didnt make the effort. Even then i dont get much more.Weird thing is for example if we;re walking somewhere just us two he will walk ahead and maybe say the odd random thing to me but he wont talk to me as if we were friends. its the little things that friends do usually that he wont do with me, things that people dont even realise mean much until they no longer happen. One minute he may speaks to me but the rest hes like he doesnt care. i feel so low. I dont no what ive done wrong, i cant even speak to him about it if we wont speak as friends.Things is im a nice person, i just want to make things right just want people to be happy, i havent had an easy life and ive realised the happiness of others is enough to keep me going, its not like im rude or nasty. He says we;re good friends to people but i dont even get treated like a friend tbh, He treats people he doesnt know and people he doesnt like better than me, by being friendlier. I dont want to go and say something about it at this moment in time as i'll possibly say the wrong thing and make things worse. I want to be clear of the situation im in before approaching it. Could you please give me some advice on what could be going on here? Im determined not to let this go. If i dont put a stop to this i will learn to regret it as we have the same friends so i cant just stop having him as a friend. please could you help me. Why is he being like this? Im sorry for the rant and all but i have to do something, i need to know why hes being this way but obviously don;t want to do the wrong thing. Whats going on? Reply to this Question
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reader, IHateWomanBeaters  +, writes (20 April 2011):
 I am one to cut people off right away if they piss me off. If they act one way and do something else, it is game over. I literally talk to about 70 girls a year and will end it abruptly, and give a real reason vs the cold shoulder crap. However, it seems like you have done nothing wrong.
You are a very nice woman that tries to appease everyone else.
Appease yourself for a change.
You are a good woman and you deserve better than that.
Much better.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2010): How long have you known him? Are you sure you can't think of any reason at all in the past did you make a comment or not get on with his girlfriend or any small thing that would make him act funny with you? If not maybe he just finds it awkward.
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