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writes:Hi i am 16 years old and I need some help! I met a guy at a ball for fund - raising and we began to chat, without finding out his age we continued talking and we ended up kissing. Since then, we kept in touch and it was only when I looked him up on facebook that I realised he was 29 years old. At first I was mortified and then I began to wonder if he knew how young I was, I do look a lot older than I actually am and I don't get ID'd for alcohol or anything. So now im wondering if I stop talking to him altogether or whether I just ask him if he knows how old I am, but then what do I do if he knows I am only 16 - is that a good thing or is he a bit perverted? im really confused because I actually really like him.
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reader, xAx +, writes (26 September 2010):
 Either in about a weeks time, text him saying that a boy asked you out and you can't see him anymore.
Or, just text him the truth about your age.
Do it in real life if you're brave enough.
And to stop liking him, try to see/date other guys. Don't go and see him, ignore him as much as you can.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI need your help again!! I was out downtown with my friends last night and i saw the 29 year old guy out again. We got talking and he wanted to know why i stopped texting him months ago; i felt bad and didnt tell him the reason, i just said i had to go then i left him. then hours later when i was in another club i saw him and his mates again, this time he came up to me and kissed me and wouldnt take his hands off me. but i was drunk; really drunk and i ended up waking up next to him this morning. yet again he never found out my age (im now 17) and ive received about 6 texts from him saying about how amazing he thought last night was and how he wanted me to come round to his house again today and have sex again.
HEEEELLLLPPPPP MMMEEEEEEE!!!! please! what do i do? how can i tell him hes had sex with a 17 year old? and how can i ignore him now? he knows where i live because he dropped me home this morning and we've had sex and it was amazing, i cant help liking him, what do i do?
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reader, xAx +, writes (1 January 2010):
I think it's best to stop talking to him. Imagine what your parents shall think! And your friends and his friends! The loss is greater than the gain.
And yes it would be perveted. If he does ask you out, ask yourself why can't he get a girl his age. You are also restricted in what you can do e.g. you have a bed time, can't drive nor buy drink and can't vote. I believe what attracts you to him might be that you can pull an older man. You are young and have many years to do that! Take your time with him as a fun experience and that's all, if not, there will be a rocky road ahead of you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionits 18 to buy drink in the UK
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2010): It is a perverted. In the US at least he could be arrested as a sex offender for inappropriately touching or conversing with a minor. I guess in the UK 16 is the legal age to consensual sex.
But ask yourself this. What normal 29 year old man would want to date a 16 year old girl (and I doubt that you look 21)? If he had normal social skills, interests and intellect and something to offer, he would have relationships with women who are his peers. More than likely he lacks these qualities along with morals and character that would make him more protective of a young girl like yourself instead of a sexual predator that he is showing himself to be.
It is your choice, but I think it is dangerous to continue to talk to him or see him. If he contacts you, ask him to stop that you are too young and why the heck didn't he tell you he was such an old man?
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