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writes:So, my best guy friend introduced me to his cousin we txted for a couple of days, we then met had sex and in the morning he kissed me goodbye and disappeared. I texted him thinking he might txt me back but he never did.... We then saw eachother again I was trying to avoid him at my best but it was hard to resist not to flirt with him. We ended up talking Then kissing then going to bed we didn't have sex this time we just talked, he filled my head with false promises like he told me he wants to go on dates etc etc. After that morning he didn't talk to me or anything he disappeared again. So thats the background of this hole shenanigans but my question is when I see him next (which will be next week) what should I do??? I feel such a strong connection with him and I need some advise!!!!!
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (16 October 2011):
 He wanted sex, he got sex. End of story.
I'd stop chasing the guy. If you want more then jsut occational sex, he IS NOT the guy.
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reader, dearkelja +, writes (16 October 2011):
 You say you have a deep connection with him but I am wondering if you are confusing this "connection" with the fact that he "rejected" you after the two of you had a physical relationship. Now it puts you in the chasing mode and for you, all you really want is to catch him-that is the attraction for you. I say that because I can't imagine that you would be attracted or feel a connection to someone who has treated you so poorly. It isn't logical.
As for him, he really is a player who is after one thing, a physical relationship. If he cared about you at all, he would be calling and talking and making that as important a component of a relationship as the sex. Does he take you out for dinner, drinks, movie, for a drive? Does he respect you by coming through with what he says?
The next time you see him you can certainly be cordial and say hello but after that, move along. Keep in the back of your mind that he was cruel to you and he doesn't deserve a 3rd chance. Put him out of your mind.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (16 October 2011):
 To me it sounds like he might just be interested in getting sex and that is all. Maybe I have picked it up wrong, but at the end of the day if he liked you and was serious about you then he would be making more of an effort to keep in contact with you. Personally if it was me the next time you see him keep your distance. Because it sounds like you are falling for him already and I would hate to see you get hurt. He isn't making an effort and thinks he can just mess with you when he wants and then drop you again. Show him that you are worth more than that. Good Luck.
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