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writes:So my ex and I broke up a few months ago and now were trying to start over.But a girl he slept with is pregnant and it's a possibility it's his. She married and has a kid with someone else but it still could be my exes. How do I deal with this if it is because I don't think I can have kids and I know he wants kids and we love each other very much I just don't know how to act or what to do.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (11 March 2013):
 Well depending on what state you live in, it might not matter about the paternity. As some states regard a child produced during a marriage belonging to the HUSBAND (whether he fathered it or not)
However your BF MIGHT want to know. He MIGHT want to be a part of the child's life. After all he MIGHT have helped create THAT little life.
Personally, I wouldn't be too happy either, because it means that not only did he have SEX with someone else, he didn't bother with protection.
And how come you think you can't have children?
Only you can decide if you can handle this or not.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2013): i had a very similair situation to yours my boyfriend of two years had broken up with me and i found out he was sleeping around and one of the girls he slept with was pregnant with his child, it hurt so much and was really hard to deal with but out of all that mess i learned one thing no girl deserves that theres someone out there to make you happy dont feel the need to go back to him after what he did it wont be the same
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2013): You move on.....
You've got 9 months of worrying if he's the father...Why torture yourself like that? Tell him you'll make it work after she's had the baby and a DNA test has been done and it shows he is not the father...If he loves you like he says he does, he should understand, if he doesn't don't waste your life.
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