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writes: Me and my boyfriend had been going out a year and a half. Things were great, then he told me that he wanted to join the army. I knew he wanted to do this before we met but nothing was ever said until this far in the relationship. It broke my heart. I felt that he obviously didn't love me as much as I loved him. I felt he had been selfish. He had let me fall in love with him just to break my heart. We argued continously and we finally broke up. We both still loved each other but we both agreed it wouldn't work any more. He dumped me. We were still seeing each other as friends and then one day we ended up having sex. Every time we saw each other after that, even though we tried to resist each other, we would have sex. It was amazing. When we split up I was seeing someone else. This was a rebound thing and this bloke knew it. After 3 months of being apart we both still loved each other and we got back together. I found out that when we were apart he was seeing someone else, even though I had done the same thing this really hurt me. He still hasn't gone in the army due to complications but he will be going in May. Do you think I'm right to be hurt by him seeing this other girl? Do you think this relationship will work? Should I end it now or should I give it a go? please help xXx
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reader, lisa_01  +, writes (10 February 2006):
 well you Weren’t technically a couple so i would not take it to heart, this does not mean he didnt love you it probably ment he was trying to move on and meet new people and try new experiences, just the same as you did. i would not be concerned about it, but i would be concerned if he continues to be with her or have contact with her now you two are back together. i think he was abit selfish for him to want to join the army, my boyfriend use to be in the army before we became a couple and he was thinking of going back in while we have been together, he though about it and he knew we would probably break up and he didnt go back because he didnt want to give me up. my b/f told me during his time in the army he would see alot of guys break it off with their wives and g/f's, its mostly because the person in the army changes, his/her attitude changes and when that happens your attitude changes towards him/her, thats when a communication break down occurs, not saying this will happen to you two but you have to be in a very strong relationship that can commit to each other even during the hard times. good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2006): Its totally natural to be jealous anyone would be. You need to give it a shot and see where it goes. You'll never know what could have been if you dont give it a chance. It sounds like you guys have a lot of chemistry!
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