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writes:Hi Im 23 years old and ive been with my partner 6 years we have a 14month old son and we got a morgage a year ago, im so confused i really dont no if i love him anymore i havent let him near me for about 3months now i just dont feel attracted to him. Ive tried telling him how i feel and he gets upset saying i cant leave him. im scared my partner deep down isnt happy bcos he nos if we split he wil have to leave the house so will i we couldnt afford it on our own. i just dont no if i should leave him or not but just being around him isnt the same!!please help i need some advice!! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2010): If you can't let him near you, you are going to hurt him even if you don't leave him.
It's time to face up to things and move on and let him find someone that wants him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI no what you mean im not fussed about leaving the house to be honest im still young and that pressure would be happily left. But deep down i do think i like some else alot and he likes me and we have wanted to be together even before i met my first partner. should i follow my heart or stick with the routine im in now just because i dont want to hurt my partner now, i just cant let him near me it doesnt feel right anymore.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (11 May 2010):
 When did you start feeling this way towards him? If it started in the time after the baby was born you could be having the baby blues. Perhaps ask him his true feelings if you worry he is only with you because of the house, and have a proper conversation about this.
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reader, laura.c.m +, writes (11 May 2010):
i feel the same way about my guy who i been with for 7 years i have sex with him 2 times last month alone ,, he just doesn't do it for me anymore
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2010): Is there someone else on the scene?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2010): What you have to figure out is it the reality of real life, having children,paying bills etc, making you feel this way, the dull boring stuff of life gets on top of us all at times.
You can't stay together because you don't want to leave the house, that's not a good enough reason to be with someone, life's to short.
Talk to him, you have been together for 6 years, you have a child together, you didn't there there by magic.
Get a sitter and go out and have some fun, or if you can't have some fun at home, make an effort it really can make a difference.
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