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*ozzy_girl
writes:i left my fiance 2 months ago after my baby was born becauz he changed. he wasnt so caring and loving and got very lazy. he didnt help out with looking after our daughter and seemed very distant. half the time i was so frustrated and angry that i told him i didnt love him anymore. But i really do.I moved back with my parents and less than 2 weeks after we broke up he was with someone else. He only wants to take my daughter for a few hours whenever it suits him and doesnt pay maintanence. I'm so angry with him yet i still feel love for him. I know he doesnt feel love for me but i just want him to change and take responsibilty. How do i deal with this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2007): I sympathise with you as I experienced a similar situation with my partner when our baby was born. He never supported me or the baby so I left him. Just for the record, if he was not much support when you were together he is not going to change and you can't make him into a responsible person either. So the only way about things is to concentrate on you,your baby and forget about him. My child is nearly 16 now, I had no financial support from my ex and my child hasn't seen the father in over 7 years! I am proud of myself,even though things have been tough at times but I don't owe the ex anything.
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reader, Straight Up  +, writes (12 July 2007):
 well you tell him that he wasn't lazy when it came to jumping on top of you at the end of the day you didn't make your daughter by yourself after all it takes 2 to tangle. so i would tell him to sit up and take resposibilty for your daughter or it's going to get serious and by serious i mean court as he is not paying maintanence
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good luck
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