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*adhairday
writes:Well first if all I have lost 80 lbs from size 24 to a 10 so far and married for almost 21 years, he told me a month ago he had fallen all over again. He has spoiled me rotten for the past month which he has never done in 20 years. We have been talking like we have never talked before. He told me his fantasy of wanting a threesome fmf, he wants to watch me and another women and do me while she foreplays or what ever it's called. My question is what should I do it? I am afraid that he would want to go farther and I don't think I could handle that seeing him with another woman. I already have concerns and my mind wonders crazy stuff, I know but how can you fall back in love with someone when your still together? Is my marriage over or just getting better? I love him with all my heart, would walk on hot coals for him. I need a little advice. He wants to know what I would like in the bedroom, I don't know as long as I am with him that's all I ever wanted. I tried to spice it up and tie him up, he loved that but I don't know what else to do and I need ideas for him to do with me. please help
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2009): Well proud of you girl for sticking up for yourself, at last, remember its never to late. I agree with what satindesire has written, but you could also try sending him naughty texts, telling him what you plan to do to him when your his slut or even tell him it over the phone or by email, he might like you to tell him what you want him to do to you, don't be shy, if you can't tell him to his face, text, phone or email him, most men love being told what to do some of the time by their partner. If he does something to you and your enjoying it, let him know. Go for it girl. Enjoy and good luck (whish it was me hehe)
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reader, badhairday +, writes (11 March 2009):
badhairday is verified as being by the original poster of the question I want to thank each of you for your advice. I got my nerve up and ask him ,if i wasn't enough for him? He started crying and told me that i was all he needed and wanted ! He told me he just thought he would bring it up just to see how i would react and ladies again i spoke up after 21 yrs of being in a corner with my head tucked under me i told him no that i could not and did not want another woman or man seeing what was mine and what was his that belongs to me. He is cool with it i was so afraid talking to him but i am glad i found you all .it gave me courage knowing i wasn't alone.i told him i would be his slut in bedroom and when doors was open i was a mom and housewife . he wants to know what i would like him to do got any wild idea's for me? remember even thought i have been married for 21 yrs it's been pretty much same old thing me on top and every now n then him. i would like to freak him out and rock his world and show him what i can do.....
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2009): Well done with your weight loss, please don't go down that path, you don't sound to me like you want to, don't do it your loose all your self respect, if your husband really loves you he'll respect your wishes. Just have fun together thats how true love should be. Good luck x
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reader, loving arms  +, writes (9 March 2009):
~Congratulations on your weight loss.
Yes you can fall in love again, I expect the weight loss has given you confidence and so your sex life has taken off, maybe your social life too. I think you have rekindled the old magic that first brought you together.
If you are not comfortable with introducing someone else into you bed, say so. Tell your hubby that you love him with all your heart and want to keep him all to yourself. Then ask that you visit sex shops for books, clothing and dvds to help you both find new fun things to introduce into your bedroom, that will be special for just the two of you.
Hope this helps, good luck exploring each other xx
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