After life threatening illness husband distances himself from me! Why?

A female age 41-50, anonymous writes:

My husband and I have been married for 15 years. prior to an illness in late February of 2010, we were best friends and lovers. I developed a life threatening health condition called Venous Sinus Thrombosis (blood clots in my brain) and spent some time in the ICU. Nothing could have prepared me for the long recovery period after, and certainly not the response from my husband. Just days out of the hospital, he came to me pleading for us to work on our marriage. I was on a very strong dose of steroids (Dexamethesone) and I was completely miserable. I had swollen up and could barely see, couldn't sleep, and my anxiety level was off the charts. Needless to say, I did not recieve him well. Following this incident, he repeated his request everyday for the months following. I was completely confused, blindsided, and felt abandoned. He told me 3 months later he is not in love with me anymore, and cut off any relationship with me and replaced it with emotional abuse and distance. What happened? I don't understand. I now suffer from post traumatic stress disorder/ and a depressive disorder. He thinks I should be able to control it. I am recieveing help from counseling, and medication, but this in no way helps me grieve or process my loss of my life partner. I love him dearly, but my 3 children are suffering, and I may have to move on.

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