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writes:seriously help!i have just realised that them rules women invented to play it cool and everything actually should have been stuck to or you just get messed around.right well my boyfriend ignored me for a couple days and i being totally in love with the guy kept calling and texting. which ofcourse was so needy of me i feel so angry at myself. i thought mine and his relationship worked so well because there were non of these rules everything was out there. but i finally got in touch with him today and he was like so moody with me fair enough he has been ill but i just wanted one text sayin don't worri i'm fine. i mean he's so like the opposite of most men he knows that he wants a future with me and he knows he wants us to live together and get engaged and all that jazz which he decided, but i feel like i'm the weak one now i'm the one that has no control over my feelings.i think this is because before i met him i was totally in control.i decided when it ended and i decided how close to get and now i'm that horrible needy insecure woman everyone hates.we talk everyday so i had the right to be worried and he told me we were guna go out and when no fone call happend i thought great he's igoring me over something and then 2 days after he's bein really nasty. i feel i have no place in his life like i don't even no if he's dead or ignoring me. i should know these things i'm his girlfriend and he wants to live with me and everything. i was so happy few weeks ago i felt as though nothing could break me but now i feel so stupid and so weak and needy i'm an idiotcan anyone suggest how i get a little bit of control back without ending my relationship? does anyone think i was out of line? he said that i was pathetic and i really do feel it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you!I know he's not just trying to have sex with me cos quite honestly i think im like the one that always wants sex!and it's always me apologisin if i was to ignore him for days on end there would be world war 3!i wouldn't have a problem if he said give me a day or 2 it's the fact he didn't say anything at all yano it's like has something terrible happend or not. if he had said give me a couple days am not well i would. he ignores me when we have a fight but he only lasts an hour because i annoy him so much he has to pick up his fone. quite honestly i should give him some space when he's mad and stuff but i just think ohno if i don't say anythin he'll go forever. I let down my guard with this guy and i told him i was terrified of opening up. i think maybe i should be me again and not ask how high wen he says jump. it's just am head over heels and all i can think about is our future and everythin. thanks alotx
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reader, LovesJamie +, writes (23 November 2008):
My boyfriend is almost exaccutly the same he just doesn't ignore me for days on end he ignores me for about an hour or so but I ring him just as much as you do.Before I got with him I was in control and never let anyone or anything stop me from being happy for very long. Now I do everything to please my boyfriend, he is lovely and caring and I am not slagging him off. He does like to get his own way alot and people always tell me to stand up for myself, he has called me pathetic and other things before. I love him but feel as if I have no control. I think we should both stand up for ourselfs, if they love us they should stay with us and realise we are people not doormats. Next time you argue if he rings you ignore him for an hour or so, he will soon realise how much you mean to him and if he doesnt then his loss not yours.Hope this helps.
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