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writes:I've been seing someone for almost 8 years now and things have been really great between us and we have a 2 year old daughter, but my problem started after I had a baby. I lost interest on everything especially when coming to satisfying my man in bed.Yesterday we had sex and it was so painful and I didn't enjoy it at all, I don't know if maybe there`s something that I'm doing wrong please??? Please give me some advice on how to get my sex life back on track or maybe I should do something new cause I love my boyfriend and we are planning to get married but I need to satisfy him and me.
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reader, AskEve  +, writes (7 October 2008):
 If you delivered your daughter normally (ie vaginal birth and not by cescarian section) then it could be that your uterus was torn slightly and had to have a few stitches afterwards. It sounds to me that they might have sewn you too tightly and this would explain the pain whenever you have intercourse.
It's normal for a woman to lose interest in sex after the baby's born as her body is readusting and getting back to normal again. Emotions run rife too, along with tiredness, fatigue and sometimes helplessness. Your daughter is 2 years old now so things should be back on an even keel again.
I suggest a visit to your local practitioner just to check that you've not been sewn too tight. Take time out in your day for YOURSELF too (when the wee one has a nap for example). If you can get someone to look after your daughter one weekend then even better! Use that time to just chill out with your partner and relax getting to know one anothers bodies again. A short break away would be ideal but if that isn't possible then just spending quality time together and talking about your sexual likes and dislikes (especially in bed) will help enormously.
~Eve~
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