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writes:Hi all, what a fabulous site, and what awsome answers.. this isn't really a please help me, with an issue, I am just after a release really and if you have any answers I would be greatful.I just want to really know WHY? Why do we keep on searching for the ones, for ultimate love, partner life mate, soul mate, and then write in and complain about things that aren't going so well... why can't we just remain in the happy vortex of love, and remember exactly what it was like to be in love, lust, with that person that we first met.. is it because we have moved onto better things, or we just can't reconnect with that energy anymore? And .. how come their are others out there, that are lucky enough to be blissfully still in love with their mate after 20 years, and are hopelessly devoted or destined to be with that person? I am just a bit lost, and hurt, i guess, after my years searching, and falling in love, not being requited, and also baffeled as to wether there is actually a soulmate out there for me.. or for everyone.. as I know that we weren't always destined to be by ourselves, but after being lied to, have my heart chewed up spat out, kicked around, and i still keep on loving like no tomorrow.. and i think is it worth it? A few moments of feeling utter bliss and happiness, or is it that i have just not found the right one yet? Hmm.. any enlightening visions would be grateful.. thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2008): Hi, i orginally posted this question..
Thankyou.. and Mandy what a beautiful way to describe love..!! I guess once you get knocked you have to get back up on the wagon again.. and yea i will keep going till i find the soul that is the right diamond for me. My moment of writing this was pretty huge, and murphys law.. i went out to the lakes, and ran into a pretty nice guy. LOL so I have a smile on my dial again.. for how long who knows, but I do appreciate the time you have taken to write back to me :) thankyou
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2008): Maybe you need to change what you're looking for in a guy. I'm on the fifth boyfriend and right now our relationship is fabulous!
I always used to go for the sorry sort. With three of my exes it was the same story - he was depressed, I was a shoulder to cry on, he felt lonely and I pitied him so a relationship got going, he gradually gained confidence, when he felt satisfied with his life he dumped me for someone else because he felt like he didn't need me. It was the type I always went for but in the end it just ended up hurting me. I decided to look for someone who was satisfied with their life - I wasn't so low that I needed a needy person to fall for me! Turned out one of my best mates who was satisfied with his life had liked me for about a month, we started our relationship last week and it's seriously rockin'! I think this one will turn out better than the rest.
So maybe you need to make a connection between all the things that went wrong it your relationships, so you know what you need to change so that you find the right guy! =]
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reader, pepper27  +, writes (5 December 2008):
 Hi Hunny
I guess we just get up shake all the crap off and keep our heads high,(not always a party) Rolling along and one day we may bump in to THE ONE! A lot of people when they get into a relationship are blissful then after a few yrs down the line that blissful turns into boredom because all the energy that went into blissful is now being put into everyday life and you can take one another for granted....As you get older you can realise your mistakes and so can others in this area as you do find once a relationship has ended you then get a question!!! I NO I TOOK IT FOR GRANTED? HOW CAN I SHOW HIM I'M SORRY? AND PLEASE HELP ME GET HER BACK I NOW NO MY MISTAKES!!! And so on, Its all a leaning curve I guess, Life is one huge learning experience and relationships are a big part of that as without them there would not be life, So it all runs sometimes not so blissfully together and then you get the couples who work at it...Obviously other factors come into it as abusive relationships wont get anyone anywhere so that's a completely different view love...At the end of the day two people have to gel they can be complete opposites but if the chemistry and love is there and they hold on to it and treasure it, It will always be there..We are not suited to everyone we date, Then some don't date they marry the first person they meet..This world of our is getting bigger and is full of materialistic fuss that we often miss the chance we may have had because we are always busy always in a rush, But at the same time we are always looking...My parent have been married for 55 or maybe 56 yrs if I add mine all up I just about get the 24 mark I think( scratching head??) And I'm just talking marriages here LOL! You have to enjoy you, Enjoy who you are and believe in you, I had this pretty much knocked out off me hunny literally...But I will never give up not on me anywho, I hope that made a little sense it takes me awhile to wake up n get into gear THESE ARE JUST SOME OF MY EARLY MORNING THOUGHTS TAKE CARE HUN WITH LOVE MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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