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writes:if any body can give a good advice..i havent talk to the girl who has been my bestfriend for years..she said said she doenst know when she will talk me.. we had arguments but i dont think they were that strong to send our friendship to the trash,,shes taking her time.. im becoming desperate because i really care for her. I try to be positive but sometime it gets hard. i have to see her around and not talk to her at all because she wants it like that, but it just kills me. I try to act strong in front of her. Is that good.?? i guess i dont know if she will talk to me i want things to be fix. she said shes not ready yet.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questiontanx for all the advices all of it really help.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (24 October 2010):
 You know when I was your age me and my best friend of 9 years had a falling out, due to the fact she was a backstabbing rat. I hope this isn't the case for you, because that would be one difficult friendship to salvage..
Now, the only thing you can do is respect this space, or silent treatment she's giving you. Invest in some new friends, or spend time with ones you haven't touched base with in awhile. Spread that friendship around, there's enough of it go around. Even, if she's going to sit there and hold a grudge, her loss not yours. You did what you could. If you guys were really that best of friends she'll come around.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2010): Hmmm,
What happened to you girls that made you not be, bff's a long time ago?
You can't make somebody want to be your super close friend ever, even if you used to be. She might have changed awhole lot, n' not for the best. Perhaps her new lifestyle, well you just don't fit in. Sorry to say this, by experience, you will just have to be sad and move on. I used to have bestfriend like that, n' well time went on, n' she changed, not for the better either. She became bitter, distant, n' her values totally fell through the roof! She didn't even care her sister at 14 had an abortion, n' many other bad things. She slept around, took drugs, but even after all that, she still thought she was better than me. ???????? Well, hmm I did end up having a baby young, well I was 19 when he was born n' I just grew up. She just stuck up her nose and acted as if I was the worst person ever. What is funny though, her new bestfriend, just gave her baby up for adoption (which is great) but still has no remorse of her sisters prior conduct. So hmmm. I think she did a lot of really bad things, REALLY immoral super bad things. Sometimes no matter how much you care or love that person, they just are flat out mean. Move on, lot's of people, YES even us girls are still loving and sweet and you will find them...... Keep your chin up, you deserve much better friends.
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (24 October 2010):
 Oh dear, this is very hard for you, isn't it?
I'm afraid that her telling you she doesn't know when she'll talk to you means she has no intention of ever resuming your friendship again, but she's hiding behind a sort of smokescreen instead of telling you outright that you and she are no longer friends......
Unfortunately, there is really nothing you can do to get her to reconsider - I expect you have attempted to tell her how you feel and that you want to be friends again? - with no good result. Furthermore, since its been years now, rather than weeks or months, she has evidently moved on with her life, and is in a very different place now to what she was when the two of you were best buddies.
Your only choice is to accept things as they are now and respect her wish not to have contact. Figure that its now over and the friendship has "died." Difficult as it is to recognize the end, its the only way you will eventually come to terms with it and find peace and the strength to move on with your own life.....
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