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writes:so me and my boyfriend have been dating for about a year now. i like having sex with him and everything its just that i never climaxed, i was just curious if anyone had any suggestions or maybe reasons why this is? Thanks! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks! your alot of help :)
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reader, melody11 +, writes (5 February 2011):
Don't worry, you probably will be able to. If you feel uncomfortable, it's not unheard of to wear clothes while having sex. If he wants the full experience and you are uncomfortable, try wearing lingerie or a corset or something that will make you feel sexy and confident and still covering up your insecurities. Ideally, you wouldnt have to worry about hiding your body and by growing with your partner you'll soon feel that there are no two separate bodies but one that does not criticize but enjoy the other and how they feel.I thought I couldn't achieve climax either until a few months into our intimacy, but when I became more comfortable, I knew that it's all about the mind. Now I can climax from everything from heavy making out to multiple times during intercourse. Don't be afraid to take control and let your body, not his, take the reigns. It'll happen, but only when your mind is ready. You don't have to think you're a bombshell, but that you're a bombshell to him. And I have had weight issues too, I feel your pain. A constant fluctuation in your weight can be a real bow to your ego! Good luck and enjoy!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for all your help :)my problem probably is that i worry about it all the time lol. oh im also still a little self conscious about my body :( When i was younger i was kinda chubby. And im sorry for not being specific enough, no ive never done it before, but i guess its cause i worry about it to much. I just worry that somthings wrong with me or something and that ill never do it.
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reader, largentsgirl89 +, writes (4 February 2011):
 One of the great things about sex is is that you get to explore each other and find out what makes each other hot. Do not fake an orgasm with your bf, I know a lot of women do, but that's not helping your bf to know what you like and it's not helping you get satisfaction from the bedroom.
You need to be honest with your bf. Take some time to just explore each other and be sure to praise him when he finds a spot that you really like. Most men don't know that a woman needs both intercourse and clitoris stimulation to climax, perhaps you should introduce that to your bf and see how that works out.
Several positions that you can try ( I didn't know about until my current bf of two years) that hit your g spot, your clit and all your hot spots at once so you see stars. Perhaps purchasing a sexual position book and then trying one or two out every night or every other night might help.
Good luck to you and have some fun. Relax. :)
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reader, melody11 +, writes (4 February 2011):
I find that as a woman, climaxing is mostly mental and the rest physical. It is harder for a woman to achieve orgasm, but when you know your triggers, you can do it easy and quick multiple times before he even does. I have read that age is related so seeing that you haven't reached adulthood technically you may have a harder time than adults, but if it didn't feel good, why else would girls do it? Some women go their lives not achieving orgasm either because of physical incapability or just bad luck. Most likely it's the latter for you so if you're comfortable try experimenting more with different positions. Cosmo online has really good advice for her pleasing spots, and look up clitoral stimulation, not the g-spot, for your first o. But honestly, it is entirely about trust and confidence with your partner. If you're more concerned about how your body looks than being lost in the moment you will not reach climax. And do not think about o-ing. Just let it happen. Express it to your boyfriend too! He might be excited and driven to get you to. Boys feel proud when they accomplish that. Drives em crazy.
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reader, Capri2  +, writes (4 February 2011):
With such little information we can hardly point you in the right direction. In the first place, have you ever had an orgasm before? Most women can't have an orgasm during intercourse or them find it very hard to have it that way.
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