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writes:My boyfriend and I been together for almost a year, everything was going great, now all of a sudden he can't pay attention to me. He calls me or sees me once a week, when I call him he talks for a while then says he'll call me back and doesn't for a few days. He never took me out since we've been together and I don't know why. His sister and I don't really get along and I don't know if that she has anything to do with it. He says he loves me, wants to marry me and have kids with me. Right now I don't know what to do anymore. Someone help me... he is a sweet person, and I can tell he is stressed out from working overnight. Should stay with him or leave him alone? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2008): Try not answering the phone (hard I know) on the one time he does bother to call you and be a little bit less needy. I'm not being harsh but it strikes me he just has you on the end of a string to be with him when it suits him. This is not fair. If he senses you becoming independent of HIM this may start a change in his thinking - and he may explain then what the problem is.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2008): It is really hard to say what is going on....so ask him this question....communication with HIM is your ticket to an answer. I don't think it is a very good sign that he has never taken you out in a year's time....he is keeping you a secret? Have you met his family, his friends, people that are important in his life? If not he may be misleading you on purpose to keep you around for sex and security...guys can and do fake an entire relationship just to have steady sex.....sad but sometimes true. Why buy the cow when you get the milk for free? Stop having sex with him immediately and start dating other men...don't rub this in his face, but he has made no real commitment to you....I am not suggesting that you be sexually disloyal to him, but you are not required to continue giving him the most intimate part of you even if you have done so in the past. He needs to step up to the plate or risk losing you...force his hand and you will know his true feelings. Good Luck.
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reader, babomi  +, writes (18 October 2008):
 he says it but he does not act like it ... and he has never taken you out and stuff like that
i don t know if it s his personality (he loves you for real but don t express it) or the fact that you re not the one for him
but it s not good enough in both cases
next time you see/call/mail him, tell him that, whatever the reasons, nightshift, personality or the feelings for you, his behaviour is not good enough to make you happy, because he does not take you out, sees you enough, answer your calls, ...
and that it has to change now, and then leave him to his thoughts, you ll see if he comes back or not, and more important, if he has changed or not
but don t wait
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reader, ggl777 +, writes (18 October 2008):
One he might be losing interest or Two he probably is stressed at work like you said.If i was you i would not call him or text him.. Maybe he needs time to be by himself. He might have a lot going on like work as you said. First you should talk to him and find out if there is anything that is bothering you. If you dont get an answer then let him contact you next. best of luck
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