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writes:I had been with my boyfriend for 81/2 years. Recently, he so-called proposed (without a ring). He had planned a simple wedding with the Justice of the Peace for January 05, 2010. We have never lived together, in fact, I don't even know where he lives. Yesterday, we broke up, because he claimed that he didn't wnat to be with a woman who had no responsibilities (no children @ home and currently not working). This isn't the first time that we've decided to get married and he changed his mind. Now I am angry and hurt and refuse to be hurt again, by him or anyone. I am 38 years old and he is 70. I know there's a big age difference, but how much does this have to do with the fact that we can't get along and can't trust eachother. What does it imply, when you've been dating a man for 8 years and still don't know where he lives? I've finally made it clear this time that I don't want him in my life any more. I told him that I would not call him and demanded that he not come around me or call. The only problem is, I'm afraid to move on. Should I move to another State to make things easier?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2009): A 70 year old man who doesn't take you to his place in eight years? The simple explanation is that he is married,the more complicated... maybe to multiple women-g
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (11 November 2009):
 When you say you're afraid to move on, has he threatened you? Do you need to get the police involved?
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (11 November 2009):
Is this a for-real question? You've been dating a guy for 8 years and you don't know where he lives? For 8 years you've resisted the temptation to look in his wallet and read the address on his driver's license? Never decided to follow him home? Not once?
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reader, BunnyHumper +, writes (11 November 2009):
It apears that you and your boyfriend/acquaintance may have not been all that you thought! I sure question this one. The only reason why a guy would not let his abode be known might be that he had/has something that he did not want you to be in the know about. Whether it be his living arrangement, his business(money source) ect.
It also sounds like maybe he was looking for a Sugar Mama. He probably couldn't get it up anyway! It could hav been that with limited income that unless you had your own you would have a hard time making it. A lot of SS income is income based so if you have an income of more than a certain amount they take the diferance away dollar for dollar. Yeh, It sucks! Just like wellfare or ADC. I would guess that it is better to find a new fish. There is lots in the sea.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (11 November 2009):
 How do you pay your bills if you don't work?
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