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writes:So i've been going out with my bf for 8 months, and recently he told me that he didn't feel like that he loves me as a gf anymore.. and he said like, right now he still loves me but he feels like i'm more of a really special friend than a gf.. But he used to be all over me, like he used to say a lot of sweet things to me and he kiss me and say i love you in dreams.Even 2 weeks ago when we spent the night together, he still did the kiss me while he is asleep thing. but he just told me that he didn't feel like the same way as he did before this week,and he said he still loves me but if let's say that there are 10 different levels of like, he liked me in the tenth level before and now it's just 7. actually i kinda feeling the same, but even though i feel that i'm not that crazy about him anymore, i still want to spend a lot of time with him. and i think this is what it feels like to be in a long term relationship,right? cause we know each other really well after 8 months, there's nothing new to be expected even though we do expect something new to happen and we've already got used to be around each other..i think the romantic feeling of love is turning into something like the love between family, right?i really don't know what to do about this, i really really like him and it's not easy for us to make it through 8 months( neither of us had this kind of long term relationship before), i think maybe there's a way for me to make him crazy about me again? and what do people feel like when they are in a long term relationship? what should i do about it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2011): Coming from a male point of view...I think this is the begining of the end, He wants to break up with you but wants to let you down easy so he is giving you hints and preparing you so you wont take it so bad. Or he just wants be your fuck buddy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2011): I think in a long term relationship its hard to keep up the intensity of the passionate love all the time when you become familiar with each other and spend a lot of time together.In the beginning your exploring each other in many ways and it's exiting! but once the exitement of the 'honeymoon' period has passed i think love does settle into something more comfortable. afterall, You often hear couples describe their partner as being their best friend. I remember hearing an interesting quote which said that true love is when you keep falling in love with the same person.. in other words, when in a long term relationship, mundane life gets in the way of things sometimes as you get more comfortable with each other, but when you come together and have quality time together, the loving feelings are rekindled.So I would agree with you when you say that maybe its developing into some kind of 'family' love. If you're both happy with things becoming more comfortable then i wouldnt worry about it.
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reader, soon567  +, writes (5 September 2011):
nothing you can do, lust isnt love. You dont measure love on a scale from 1 to 10. Hes probably has another ready and ur in his way.
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reader, Daniel the love doctor +, writes (5 September 2011):
 In most relationships there's a period of time when things are a bit stale. The excitement seemed to have faded, and people are left wondering..."where did all the fun go?"
Here's two ways to get the fun back:
1. Show your creative side. When it comes to making a successful, long-lasting relationship, sometimes we need to think outside of the box. Coming up with fresh ideas for love and romance (or even where the next place you'll go to spend time together) could be the key to keeping your relationship thrilling.
2.Get Spontaneous. Do things "just because". Surprise your partner by planning a nice day/night out. Summer is here, so doing things around this time may be very enjoyable for the both of you.
Hope this helps! :^)
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