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writes: Hi everyone. I've been with my girlfriend for 6 years. I'm 25 years old now and it was the best 6 years of my life. We were the perfect couple. We did loads of stuff together and shared alot of first experiences together like going abroad for the first time. When my girlfriend started her new job, she started hanging out with a new group of girlfriends. She started to go out clubing with them alot, but i never stopped her, and completely trusted her. I began to notice odd things a few months back. I was never aloud to meet any of her new friends, even though she knew all of mine. When she was meeting up with them and wanted dropping off in the car, she would want dropping off just around the corner so i wouldn't be able to meet them. My girlfriend is 22 years old and her friends are mainly 18 years old and go out clubbing pretty much every night of the week. 2 weeks ago we were around my friends house and she said she had snogged 2 of her girlfriends on one of these nights out. These 2 girls she snogged happen to be lesbians. This caused a big row between us, because i said it was totally disrespectful to me. She failed to see what the problem was. Up until 2 weeks ago, i noticed she started to be really sly, by texting people all day from her phone which was inside her handbag. She started to go on msn messenger and whenever i'd walk in the room she'd just instantly close the screen and shut the computer down. The icing on the cake was when i found she had called someone a midnight on her phone. The number wasn't stored in her phone as a contact. At the time, she made the call when i was watching tv and she said she was going to the toilet. She doesn't know i know about the call, i haven't told her. The final time she went out i noticed a massive change when she came in. We didn't make love from that day and it was like she was a different person with me all together. I lived with a horrible atmosphere for two weeks and then had it out with her. She told me she wanted to split up. I said well at least i desserve an explination after 6 years. She told me, she couldn't put her finger on it, but she just didn't feel happy. Then she started going on about how she'd been uphappy for months and months. I'm not into kidding myself, but this clearly wasn't the case. We'd only booked up to go abroad again a month ago. We were also engaged and she was always talking to my friends about how perfect the wedding was going to be. I even said to her, "who are you trying to convince that your not happy, yourself?" She just stared blankly at the floor with no reply She promised me there was no one else. She's moved back into her mums house now. My friends have seen her out around town clubbing alot since the split. I just can't believe everything was perfect for 6 years and now she's gone and she hasn't even texted me or anything to even see if i'm alright. I know all this doesn't paint a good picture of her, but she really was the nicest person anyone could meet, and it's like she's transformed into someone else in the space of 1 month. I Would be really grateful for anyones view and comments on this as i am really confused. I really miss her. Is she worth fighting for or shall i just get on with my life? Thank you...
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reader, Dr. Reality Check  +, writes (25 June 2006):
 I'm sorry to say she ain't worth fighting for....even after all that time. People change, especially in those ages, and as she started with you so young, she is probably longing for the experiences she missed out on while she was with you (sleeping around, clubbing etc). She was just too young for a serious relationship, and it has just taken her 6 years to realise that, whereas you were already 19. You will be hurting, but you should just get on with your life rather than searching for something that isnt there anymore.Good luck
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