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writes:Hi I've been with my boyfriend for about five years now. The relationship has become so boring. We do not do anything like go out to a movie or dinner. We just stay at home. He's pretty cold to me too. No cuddling or kissing. We don't even talk anymore. It seems as though we have nothing left in our relationship. He used to be so sweet to me and now he doesn't even know I exist. Please help.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (22 September 2009):
Try talking to him to see if you can kick start your relationship. I would be a shame to end it if there is some hope. But if it can't be fixed, accept that it has come to and end and look for someone else. There are other guys out there. x
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (22 September 2009):
Well you are either in a rut that you can get yourselves out of, or the relationship has run its course.
Staying in and doing nothing can kill any relationship.
The first thing you need to do is sit him down and tell him you are not happy and you think you BOTH need to put some effort in to fix it. If he wants to make this work then you both have to sit down and agree to put some changes in place.
Try things like making sure you go out at least once a week, on a date, with each other. Get ready separately, put some effort in, and go to the cinema or a restaurant, or anywhere there is to go dating in your area.
Plus, go out and get your OWN lives. Time apart is as important as quality time together. Go off with your own friends so you have things to talk about at home. Sounds stupid, but TRUST ME, it works!
Then it's just about the little things.
When was the last time you kissed him (properly for more than one minute) ??
Once you've both agreed to try, just do the stupid little romantic things to him and you'll find he does it back.
The first step is going to be talking though.
Good Luck!! xx
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