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writes:I've been with my boyfriend over a year and a half, he's 36 and I'm 25, we already own a house together and I want us to get married one day. But his parents split up this year on my birthday after 36 years of marriage and he doesn't seem to interested. Is there anything you can suggest?
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reader, stina  +, writes (14 September 2006):
 Hello Anonymous,
Seems to me that this is just one of those situations in which you're just going to have to give him time.
After seeing his parents split up, it really doesn't make marriage seem to appealing to him. He's just most likely depressed at this time. Honestly, who can blame him, right?
Right now what you need to do is focus on comforting him and helping him through this tough situation. He is already stressed out so it's probably a good idea to hold off on giving him the "when are we going to get married" kind of speech, right? Weddings are lots of stress themselves and he really doesn't need anymore of that in his life right now.
Just be with him and talk with him. Eventually he'll be able to get over this, but like I said it's going to take time. When he has started feeling better, that's when you should bring up the subject of marriage with him again. When it's appealing. When it would mean something happy instead of reminding him of his parents and how they were together for so long but still split up, etc - which he would probably think (I know that's what I would think).
Just relax, comfort him, and you'll be able to bring it up in the future. He's not going anywhere and neither are you if marriage is something you are thinking about, right? It will come in time. Take care.
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