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*pn2RNmom
writes:A guy that I was seeing for 3 weeks told me he needed space for a little while. Now he is talking to his ex wife..The problem is he left something personal at my house. I want to take it to him, but I am torn between getting over him and giving him space to figure out that she hasn't changed and I am better for him. I do not know that they are back together for sure, all I know is they have been talking. He told me he was over her and didn't love or trust her anymore. We have not spoke in two days and the last time we did he was very angry at me over a misunderstanding. But he was too upset to talk about it..Should I give him space for a while and then call him to talk this out or just say FU and go on? I am missing him terribly and want him back to see if we can have a relationship. What the heck do I do??
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reader, lpn2RNmom +, writes (12 December 2010):
lpn2RNmom is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthey have lived separate for 7 months. but he was unhappy with her for over a year-they didnt talk or sleep together...she treated him real bad. she found out he was with me and the next day she was over at his house with him-talking. so i think she is jealous and trying to get him back....my problem is we were really good together and if he goes back to her then everything he said to me was a lie.....they are not divorced. He has been out of work for 8 mths and she was fired in July. so neither have the money for it..but she said she was having divorce papers sent to him and he better sign them and he was happy about thathe just has me so durn confused..
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reader, ljhenhmla +, writes (11 December 2010):
Just give him sometime it will be good for both of u. If he love u he will be back. How long has him and his ex been seperated. Just don't get to caught up because u will get hurt even more.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2010): If you miss him terribly after 3 weeks, imagine his wife who must have spent years with him!
Can you have a relationship? It's too soon to tell, and it seems it has started on the wrong foot, since you've been having misunderstandings right from the start.
Don't jump in too quickly here. I'd put that object where you can't see it in case he returns to retrieve it, in the meanwhile, get your mind busy with something else and be careful about being a rebound, this is not without associated risks that should be analysed beforehand.
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