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writes:It took 3 months for me and my new girlfriend to finally get together after gingerly tiptoeing around, wondering wether or not we like each other. Finally i plucked up the courage and asked- we are now i believe official. However, we still have not even kissed and she seems reluctant to start that moving that way. I'm fine with going slow but she told me she's been in lots of relationships before and going out with each other has always just happened. I'm wondering why things seem to be moving so difficultly and unsurely? I'm presuming the physical side has come easily to her in other relationships too. Am i doing something wrong? I definately really like this girl but am worried i'm mucking things up or that she's not into 'us' as i am. We get on so well and conversation and jokes flow between us and i want to be there for her all the time but there isn't any sexual charge or sparks there - it seems more like we are very very close friends but surely that is a good basis for a relationship isn't it? I see her nearly everyday and am at the point where i base most of my thoughts around her and would feel miserable and lost if she weren't there. However,what is more likely to succeed- A slow, friend based relationship based on knowing and being there for each other or something that started from sparks, fireworks and passion? Any comments would be most appreciated - thankyou!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2008): Maybe she dosen't like you in that way? I actually acted this way, got out of kissing him and holding hands, in the end I told him I just saw us as friends. Maybe she's the same
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reader, Kuroneko  +, writes (3 November 2008):
I believe a slow relationship on a strong foundation of friendship is always best. Sparks and feelings can be finicky and fade. Don't be discouraged; take this time to really strengthen your relationship in this area and see where it takes the two of you.
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