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30-35,
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writes:hi im 20 and have been with my boyfriend for 2 an a half years. we have been having sex for about a year an a half an we were both virgins before that.we have sex once or twice a week but i just dont really enjoy it. i pretend to enjoy it which is bad i know but i dont want to hurt his feelings! i feel all tense when we do it an it just kinda of hurts an doesnt feel nice, even though i am wet before we do it! beofre we actually have sex he touches my clit which feels too over powering an i just want him to stop so i have to push his hand away! whats wrong with me? :(
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reader, DoubleM  +, writes (22 May 2011):
 Nothing wrong with you except inexperienced boyfriend.
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reader, Odds +, writes (22 May 2011):
 What's wrong with you is nothing innate or biological, most likely. You're just not experimenting and being open.Talk to your boyfriend. Tell him that you want to experiment, to find the stuff that works best for you. Don't be embarassed, just be tactful. Try having him stimulate the area near (not directly on) your clit in different ways - rubbing, pressing, or even just lightly touching. Try different positions, or speeds. See if things are better when he is behind you and pressing his hand over your pubic mound, or if you like things fast versus slow. Try any new position you can think of or read about. Try different speeds and angles. Try rubbing your own clit during sex.In other words, experiment, and don't be embarassed to talk about it. Find what works for you, and when you find it, let him know! I'm sure he wants to please you, but if you don't say anything he'll just assume he's doing everything right.
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