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writes: My boyfriend and i have been together for 2 yrs and we both really care about each other but we just aren't into sex anymore. when we do have sex we are so bored we usually stop b4 either one of us finishes. we've tried new positions and toys but its just not doing it for us. is there anything anyone can think of to put some spice if our realtionship b4 its too late. Reply to this Question
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reader, leaa +, writes (18 September 2006):
You've only been together for 2 yrs and already bored.
Perhaps you do not love each other, although you say you care for each other, its not the same as loving someone and perhaps the passion has died away.
If there is no love, the sex can become boring.
Have you both tried talking about how you both feel.
Try having sex outside the bedroom.
Also start by kissing and cuddling, caressing eachother without the sex for a while and see how you get on. If you are not stimulated by that than you should seek counselling. But you really must ascertain whether you both really love each other, as just caring for each other is not enough.
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reader, Lostsoul +, writes (18 September 2006):
 Thought about dressing up, enacting a fantasy ? Outdoor sex ? Talk to one another open and ask what you both want from this and take it from there. Try running a bath and being sensual together, massing each other, taking the real time and effort to make each other feel sexy, candles the works and spend time on foreplay, maybe over a couple of nights, touching each other but no sex, for about a week, get each other really going and not allow sex to happen but everythign else goes, then at the end of the week allow it to lead to sex... try it you might just get the passion back!
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