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writes:Dear CupidMy girlfriend and I exchange little "muah" text messages in the morning. After 18 months I'm getting a little tired of the routine and would rather call. In the past when Ive been busy or forgot to, she's reacted with tremendous anger. I don't think a little text should hold so much meaning, but apparently it does. I don't like to feel its my god-given duty to text her. How I choose to express my feelings, be it a text, flowers, etc. should be my choice right?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks Dragonette. She knows if I don't text that I will call. Its not that I'm blowing her off. I fancy hearing from her in the morning be it text or call too. But She insists on the texts even if I call. I think its an insecurity issue. Or maturity issue. Either way, her over-reaction reduces a sweet routine down to a waking fear that compels me to immediately reach for my phone every morning.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (6 February 2007):
 Dragonette is dead on.
Read it. Read it twice!
xxIndia
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reader, dragonette  +, writes (6 February 2007):
 Did you ever try calling her, or sending her email, or flowers or an opera singer dressed up as a marshmallow? What was her reaction? If she wasn't pissed about it, you can deduct that it's not so much the media as the message that is the important part.
Maybe the important thing for her is to know in the morning that you still love her. Yes, the text message may seem like a stupid and small thing, but apparently it makes her day. Are you sure you want to take a fight over this little thing?
In any case, you can always tell her that you've noticed that the morning "muah"-message is very important to her and that you would like to know why it's so important. And while you're talking, you might want to take the opportunity to let her know that you love her whatever the time of the day is and that sometimes you will be very cloud-headed in the morning and forget to send her the message, but it doesn't mean that you love her any less.
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