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writes:i have been with my girl 15 year and it was ok then one day she got up out of bed and said she did knot no if she loved me as a mate or a lover . well for some time we just got on.then one day i gave her a kiss but did not get any thing back for her so i said i will go but she stoped me . then she packed her bag and said im going to my sisters so for 3 days she was gone . then she come back and thing got better her mum was ill in spain so i sent her over to see her . oh we have too kids in this anyway we still had sex and hugs but she still did not no . when she came back from spain we had fam day out when we got back in we sent the kids too bed and we got in bed. she said what are we doing ? we had sex and then she said is this the last time we have sex? i got up the next day and packed her bag then told her how i love her and things then she gave me a kiss i said wots that for she said i dont know . all i know is she has not cryed about this yet and i have the kids will she come back. reasons?cos it is and maybe i have out grown youand yes i have phoned her and text every day .she been gone one week in spain and one when she got back . she told me it was over for good then she told her dad she did not no if it was over . she is renting a flat to be on her own so she can make her mind up i think .she has not had a breakdown over it yet thats what she said anyway . we had a good chat and she told me she has had no time to think about it .but is she just playing me after 15 years ?i know we had a good thing . she tells me it over then its im not sure . do i let her have 2 weeks on her own dont text or phone her or do i keep texting her and phoneing her to let her know how i fell.she when to a party and said if she stays at her mates she will text me to let me know she was ok . the day before she said dont text me about us and i will do the same . then i tok her back to her sister i gave her a hug and when to kiss her on the cheek but she turn and gave me a kiss on the lips what the f..k is that all about.do i give up or do i go no .i text her to tell her how hard it is with out her .and i said why is it so easy for you and not for me .she said its not i just hide it better.then i said some thing to her and she said you just have to keep strong and keep ya chin up trust me i know its hard . will i ever get her back or am i just a twat for thinking she will come back ? i know the only one how knows is her but is so hard doing the dad thing and to do me at the same time.will she ever come back ? she dont wont to talk to me why wot did i do . she see the kid tues thu for 2 hours and i said you need to do and see them more she sent me this text. i cant see them more than i am .i knowthey get bored here but they are never satisfied and disrespectful. wot the f.uk who is she this is knot the woman i meet 15 years ago or the woman i now. new reason nothing left to give . who me or me and the kids.she told me it was over for good then she told her dad she did not no if it was over . she is renting a flat to be on her own so she can make her mind up i think .she has not had a breakdown over it yet thats what she said anyway . we had a good chat and she told me she has had no time to think about it .but is she just playing me after 15 years ?i know we had a good thing . she tells me it over then its im not sure . do i let her have 2 weeks on her own dont text or phone her or do i keep texting her and phoneing her to let her know how i fell.she when to a party and said if she stays at her mates she will text me to let me know she was ok . the day before she said dont text me about us and i will do the same . then i tok her back to her sister i gave her a hug and when to kiss her on the cheek but she turn and gave me a kiss on the lips what the f..k is that all about do i give up or do i go no .i text her to tell her how hard it is with out her .and i said why is it so easy for you and not for me .she said its not i just hide it better.then i said some thing to her and she said you just have to keep strong and keep ya chin up trust me i know its hard . will i ever get her back or am i just a twat for thinking she will come back ? i know the only one how knows is her but is so hard doing the dad thing and to do me at the same time--------------------------------------------------------------------------------will she ever come back ? she dont wont to talk to me why wot did i do . she see the kid tues thu for 2 hours and i said you need to do and see them more she sent me this text. i cant see them more than i am .i knowthey get bored here but they are never satisfied and disrespectful. wot the f.uk who is she this is knot the woman i meet 15 years ago or the woman i now.[moderator note: your four separate posts have been combined into one.]
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (26 May 2008):
This is quite confusingly written, but from what I can tell she's just asked for a couple of weeks on her own to sort her head out.
I think you should respect that and tell her she has 2 weeks to make her mind up. She might realise she misses you but just needs a bit more time to herself every now and then, or she might realise she's happier alone.
Either way it's best to let her make her mind up. You need to sort yourself out for the sake of the kids, whether you choose to stay together or not.
Good Luck!! xx
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