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writes:Me and my best friend started dating. Me and him have been friends all of our lives. But the problem is I just got out of a five year relationship and I am afraid to tell him how much he means to me and how much I care about him, because I am affraid that I will get hurt again.Do I need to compare him to the last guy I dated? Do I need to tell him how I really feel about him?Please help me!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2005): your ex boyfriends are in the past and thats where they should stay. give this guy a chance if it feels right. you will never know what will happen untill you try. people always get hurt, if ya didnt you would never learn whats right and whats wrong xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2005): Never compare past bf's with new ones. They are both completely different individuals and itjust isn't fair nor respectful. Although you two have been friends for a long time, dating does change the dynamics of your friendship, quite a bit. If you've just begun dating within the past few months, I would hold off saying anything to him though, until you have had more indication of his interest and solid commitment to you. You will see the indicators as you progress. I would suggest just going slow, be yourself, have fun and allow your relationship to grow and flourish in a natural way. Do not rush anything. Allow both of you to get comfortable with the idea of dating, first. In time, you both will talk about "feelings' But I think you are right to want to protect yourself emotionally at least until you geta few more significant clues from him. If it's meant to be, it will happen but also remeber, relationships are big risks-you always take a chnace with your heart. Just have a nice time, and remember to smile and enjoy life. Best wishes and good luck.
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reader, Seratuki +, writes (29 October 2005):
 Well..
WHile it is common to compare him to the last big realtionship you had...and totally understandable..it's unfair to him..and to you...
You need to learn to slowly put aside your past...although it may be best for you to express
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