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writes: Me and my girlfriend had a rocky beginning where we both had someone else n we got together from that I had told her I would choose her over my ex numerous times but in the beggining I had chose my ex.because she was still with hers at the time. Now 3 months into our relationship I am scared of lossing feelings for her but I always seem to get mad or believe that she Is talkin to other people behind my back. She always denies it an I have never caught her doing it but the thought stays in my head. Also there are people who try to talk to her all the time that like her and I have caught her talkin back but not in a flaring way like a being friendly I don't want to be rude way which yes buggs me an I have to tell them to stop trying to get with her. I love her to death I would be nothing without her she is my best friend as well as my girlfriend but I always get upset that she talks to these people and its always in my head she is talking to someone behind my back. I don't know what I should do I love her so much but I can't get the thought out of my mind ever. The reason the thought is thwre is because my past relations everyone has left me for someone else. Also she is with me now. becaufe she had fewlings for me n cheated on her ex with me ... It sucks I don't want to lose her but I don't want to run hwr away by always thinking this stuff .... what should I do ???
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2010): So the both of you were cheating on the people you were involved with when you guys first met....go figures. You are worried because, you started out being dishonest and now you are concerned that she might do the same thing to you that she did to her ex....well I think you have met your match. Both of you have shown that you are capable of cheating, thus being dishonest, thus not being trustworthy. There is no need to worry now....this is what you bargined for, so take it or leave it. I don't feel sorry for you one bit.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2010): You pretty much answered this when stated: "she had fewlings for me n cheated on her ex with me."
Well, there you go. It started with that whole dishonest arrangement and went from there.
What you should do is say: "Hey girlfriend, both you and I got together in totally dishonest terms. I knew you were cheating, and you knew you were cheating, so we were both lying. So now that trust was never really a part of this and I want trust with you now, what can we come clean with and what can we agree to so we have a fully honest arrangement?"
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