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writes:I'm 18, I have "supposedly" have a car and I say supposedly because to me its not mine unless I can come and go as I please. The thing is my parents(mostly my dad) wont let me visit my boyfriend often. My BF lives about 25 mins away the town right next to mine and its really hard not being able to see him as often as I would like. Its been a week that I havent seen him and my dad swears its too soon, but to me its not like that I have been dating this guy for almost 2 years now and I HATE that I cant visit him as I would like. I feel like a little girl and when I ask to use the car he justs says that its for university bla bla and then gas money which I volunteer to pay for I dont care! I'm just tired of this already, what can I do!!!
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (21 July 2010):
 I agree with Oldersister. Also, why isnt your bf coming to visit you, why are you doing all the running after him in the relationship??
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (21 July 2010):
 I agree with Ask Oldersister. May I ask, why isn't your boyfriend coming to visit you?
It's actually pretty obvious how you can fix the situation. Make sure you own your own car and can pay for the insurance, fuel and maintenance. Then it's entirely up to you when and where you drive it!
If your dad is planning to pay for university, then you should really try to understand his take on this. Any money you 'waste' on travel or other things might feel like you don't care enough about your own education.... kind of frustrating for you dad, if you can see it from his perspective.
To solve the problem, earn your own money and you can then pay for the car, the insurance and the fuel. Not to mention the books, the tuition, the housing and food for university!
I have asked dozens of teens to write their question from their parent's perspective. Not ONE has ever managed to write that question. Not one! So are you the one? The one who can write into DearCupid and present the situation from the parent's perspective?
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reader, Oregongrl1 +, writes (21 July 2010):
The only thing you can do! get a job and buy your own car even if its a beater car. and get out from under their thumb. if you are telling us everything? i know sometimes parents put restrictions for good reasons.
Good Luck!
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