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writes: I'm afraid my 'best' friend is gonna try n steal my guy....again...When me nd my boyf james* first got togeva she tried everything for it to not happened...telling me and him poisonous stories about one another etc. 6 months down the line and everything is great however alot of the time at school (me and emma* are in year 11 whereas james is in lower 6th) they let on to each other far more. When i call him/her they are always on the fone to each other. He still treats me good etc but being realistic i think shes gona persuade him that im boring and shes a better deal. She is a very manipulative person and has done this with many of our mutual friends - I know what shes capable of. I know that if ones boyfriend really likes them then they won't care what any one else has to offer... but in reality it doesnt wrk that way...many ppl are always wndering whether the 'grass is greener'. I dont want to say to either of them...stop tlkin to each other because that is just too far, and i cant arise my suspicions with james because he will think im a paranoid bunny boiler! I have to admit i also don't like the attention shes getting instead of me.What should i do.!!!??!?? please help. Reply to this Question
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reader, Tinkz  +, writes (30 December 2005):
 Well sweety,
Why would you even consider her as a friend if that is what she is like, she doesn't deserve your friendship.
You don't need people like that in your life.
Speak to your boyfriend, tell him your concerns and if he doesn't listen then he is just as guilty as she is. Communication is what keeps the relationship alive, if you don't talk to him he won't know how you feel and the problem won't go away and then you going to keep fighting and fighting causes break ups, so unless you want to to loose him, rather talk to him, at least he will know how you feel and who knows maybe he will stop talking to her on his own!
And tell your friend straight up to back off and if she doesn't then tell her to PISS OFF!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2005):
First of all I would say that this girl is not a true friend and she is acting this way for no other reason than that she is jealous of you, she needs to prove to herself that she can have anything and anyone that you can.
This is the kind of thing that women as we get older (most of us) grow out of!! Lets face there are unwritten rules that another girls man is off limits especially when that girl is supposedly a friend!! I would remind your 'friend' about this and ask her not to phone him anymore because you dont like it- if she doesnt back off and he takes her side over it lets face it neither of them are worth it!!
Out of respect for you he should ask her not to call him!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2005): I would let him know it bothers you but, I wouldn't be friends with her anymore cause your friend should'nt be talking with your man. You should understand also that she cant master mind him into liking her if she does make up stories you know the truth. Try to let it go if he wanted to be with her he would don't let it consume you i would let her know she needs to back off A.S.A.P Good luck Girl!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2005): I would let him know it bothers you but, I wouldn't be friends with her anymore cause your friend should'nt be talking with your man. You should understand also that she can master mind him into liking her if she does make up stories you know the truth. Try to let it go if he wanted to be with her he would don't let it consume you i would let her know she needs to back off A.S.A.P Good luck Girl!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2005): I would let him know it bothers you but, I wouldn't be friends with her anymore cause your friend should be talking with your man. You should understand also that she can master mind him into liking her if she does make up stories you know the truth. Try to let it go if he wanted to be with her he would don't let it consume you i would let her know she needs to back off A.S.A.P Good luck Girl!!!
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