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anonymous
writes:I am becoming more and more a doormat. I don't know what to do or how to raise my self esteem. I'm afraid that I'm comfortable as a doormatand don't expect more. I need female consciousness raising. Men quickly learn I'm a softie. I tried to yell at my bf last night, and woke up feeling I had made a wrong turn onto a heartbreak lane. Boy do I feel sorry for myself!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2007): Your welcome, dear. I wiah you the best and good luck! Keep us posted on how you do. Take care of you. Irishxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2007): Thank you Irish for your great advice! You are especially
right in that I DO need to take back some power in my
relationship! I'm working on it...!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2007): You sound like a good, caring, nice lady. I think you need to take some assertive training classes. Learning to set boundaries and saying no, will help you with you self-esteem. It gives you back your power and with that comes the confidence to assert yourself in a positive way. Confidence helps you believe and recognize that you don't need to tolerate any BS, that is infringing on your space and causing stress to your emotional well being. Now--for starters, you need to stop holding yourself responsible for other people's failings-their failings are their own, not yours. You need to stop blaming yourself. You have no control over him. Start learning to set boundaries. Big ones. By improving your boundaries with others, you won't be inclined to blame yourself and take responsibility for his 'crap' anymore. Get strong and you need to take back your power in this relationship. I also think you think long and hard about this guy's shortcomings and ask why he takes advantage of your soft heartedness. Frankly, I think it's a gift to be compassionate, nice and caring. He doesn't know how to appreciate that. Maybe you need to think about changing the man in your life. Stay strong and I'm with you all the way!
Hugs, Irish
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