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30-35,
*ovemylove
writes:I don’t know what to do with my boyfriend! He has everything I could ever want in a guy- nice, very much like me, adorable, caring, loving, funny, hot, fun, and I feel like he is practically my best friend. I can share anything with him and we can be ourselves around each other. First problem...the relationship can be considered long distance. He lives an hour and a half away, but thanks to his age, he can drive to my town. He visits me almost every weekend (since we are in high school) and we just click! We love being around each other.Second problem…I have learned many things about him that he has never told me! I think. His friend I have met, likes me. My boyfriend knows that too. That has been causing a lot of conflict in their friendship since he wants to win me over. So basically, his friend has been texting me lately. And he likes to talk a lot about how my boyfriend isn’t a good guy for me. Very recently, the friend told me that my boyfriend hit his ex (I stupidly didn’t ask details about where she was hit or if that meant a slap or a punch) when he broke up with her. The very next day, his ex girlfriend reached me via internet and told me that she was his ex. She also said that he has many issues and that she hopes I can deal with them. She then said to take care of him. My boyfriend only told me that he goes to a group therapy and that is because he fights with his dad a lot. (Not just verbal). However, he has never acted violent physically or verbally to me.So jeez! I haven’t told my boyfriend I have heard any of this. He is still great and hasn’t changed at all. I am not saying that I want to marry him, but I do love our relationship and want to make sure I’m doing the right thing. But I really wish I wouldn’t have to tell him any of this.
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reader, lovemylove +, writes (6 January 2010):
lovemylove is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you missSamantamary.
Well I already know that the girl who talked to me was indeed his ex because he has told me about her. (When he first started asking me out, she kept calling him and telling him that she wanted to be with him again).
However it is weird that she contacted me right after the friend told me so maybe he told her about this whole thing and they both want me and him to split up. I'm not sure but still, I really do love my boyfriend and I wish I could just pretend I never heard any of this.
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reader, missSamanthamary  +, writes (6 January 2010):
your best bet here is to confront him if you dont no the truth your gonna spend ur hole life wondering , his friend could have got one of his friends to act as the girl and message as a fake message,i belive his friends being a dick , if u care about this guy as much as it sound like you do then find out everything before you move farther in your relationship,you dont nessicarily have to tell him what you were told just strait out ask him if hes ever hit a girl , i hope all works out for you good luck
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