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writes:So my boyfriend has a birthday coming up in a month or so, and we've decided for his birthday that we're going to try finding a third (female) to share oral sex with. So, it won't necessarily be a threesome. We're also considering waiting until our trip out to San Francisco. Of course we live in a huge college town, so who knows...My concern is, how to find someone and be safe about it? I want to avoid anyone we would see in social circles. Also, am I being too naive about this, could this potentially hurt us? I'm pretty open-minded and doubt this would harm the relationship. But I'd like another opinion. And if anyone has any opinions or advice on what to do during the occasion, I'd really appreciate it! Thanks :D
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2009): don't be afraid of an oral sex threesome in the future…i've done it, and friends of mine have done it…there's only THREE rules…make sure both parties are cool with it, make sure everyone is confident about themselves as individuals and in the relationship…and make sure that the third party member has NO STDS!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWe ended up talking about it again last night and decided to just keep it as a fantasy thing. Basically he said the same thing you just did, and if we're gonna be out on one of our first big trips together we'd rather just enjoy it for ourselves rather than try to make a stranger a part of it. Thanks though for the answer!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2009): I had to rate your answer excellent, I have never ever heard that come from a mans mouth.
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reader, 2old4this +, writes (15 January 2009):
 Tread very very lightly on this. First of all if you do this, Definitely the out of town thing is the way to go, and the further the better. Craigs list is a good place to look for people but as far as the safety, its just as much of a judgement call as if you hooked up with a guy you hardly knew. But my suggestion is to not do it, even just for a BJ. My girlfriend is BI, so I thought along time about it and realized that I love her and wouldnt want to share her with anyone. I think the only time a 3some would be ok is if none of you were involved with each other before hand. No hearts to be broken. And I truly believe no matter how cool you feel with it now, it will probably come to bite you in the ass later.
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