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30-35,
*axi101
writes:Dear Cupid,Just over a year ago now I met my first love! We're both 19 year old lads. Through a mutual friend I got in contact with another boy in another part of Ireland. He lives just over 100 miles from me. We talked literally for hours and hours each day online and over the phone. I felt like I really got to know him. We met up close to ten times in Dublin city, going to the cinema, national parks and going out for some food. I was anxious about meeting him at first but he reassured me that things would be alright, and they were. He is probably one of the most genuine, trustworthy guys I've ever met and probably ever likely to meet. Towards the end of that summer, he noticed I had profiles of myself on many dating websites etc and I was harmless flirting with other guys, i had no intention to pursue anything. He said that he considered it infidelity and we argued about it for a while. Then, with other things going on in my life (moving to university) I didn't speak to him for a week. When I eventually did want to sort it all out a week later, he wasn't prepared to talk about it and ended it. At first I was ok with it, we still talked as friends, but it wasn't the same as he gradually cut me out of his life and the conversation began to die.I've phoned him and emailed him constantly for the last year realizing how much I miss him and I love him. It is the only time I've experienced love and he genuinely loved me back before this happened. Few months on after we split he said he had a new boyfriend.I thought that was a bit soon for someone who claimed to love me. That was the only thing stopping me going to his front door.I've never met many guys before, it was only by chance that I came across him. I'm not that outgoing in general. However I'm finding it real hard to get over him. I want to be happy for his new found happiness, but I find myself looking through his photos and thinking of him everyday. I've tried everything, it is driving me mad, my friends have said I've got a little compulsive over him and should drop it but it is easier said than done. I still love him and would do anything for him. My rationale for continuing to try to contact him is that I just feel some things in life are worth pursuing.I need advice on weather I should pursue him or leave him? If I should leave him, how do I stop thinking about him? New love doesn't seem to likely to come anytime soon given my nature and circumstances. Any advice would be appreciated.
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries  +, writes (12 June 2009):
 for the time being i think it's best you leave him i mean he's with someone else already and you can't do anything to change that at the moment.
just continue with your life you'll come across many guys just these things do take time to get over but you will get there trust me :)
i know at the moment it seems like you won't but you really will just need time and friends really.
anyways i hope this helps.
best of luck to you hun :)
if you need to talk further don't hesitate to message me :)
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