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writes:I have problems everywhere. First i needed to hand a slip in at school to get an interview for the sixth form but i didn't because the courses are just rubbish and the only thing i want to do is become a footballer or a racing driver but if i want to become a racing driver i would have to got to america cause i only want to race in america first in the indy car series and then if i get the opportunity i would race in england. If i want to race i know that i have to get a job first and earn enough money so that i can buy an appartment and have enough for a flight and for racing gear but my mum and dad dont want me to race but it is one of my biggests passions and i dont know how to tell them.My other problem is that i have a big crush on someone i have seen her before and just thought that she is cute i wouldn't kick her out of bed but the thing is that i saw her one day and she looked beautiful with her dress and lip stick on and now i can't stop thinking about her everytime i see her i blush and get butterflies in my stomach and i get this feeling when i know that i am going to see her and i want to get over her as quickly as possible because i know that i'll want to see her over and over again and i don't want to fall in love with her because she has a boyfriend and she is about 10 years older than me so i no we can't ever be together.How do I get over her and what do I do about my future? Thank you in advance for your answers I am sure they'll be very helpful.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (24 June 2009):
 OK, Luke. Having dreams is good:) Having goals are good too. But both are kinda just fantasy, if you do not make plans to meet your goals and to realize your dreams.
We all have dreams, so we get to realize others we just get to have ... as dreams.
So before you dump out of school, find out WHAT it takes to reach your goal. Getting a job and a flat and all that is good, but it takes more then money to be a race car driver. It takes determination, skill, talent and LUCK. It takes for someone to recognize you and your talent, to back you. To train and mold you. That SOMEONE is not just going to come knock on your door. YOU need to make that happen.
Stay in school while you research and figure out HOW to get there. If this is your DREAM then taking a few years to get there won't matter. Your parents wants you to at least have some education in case you dream do not come through. That, I know, sucks because it is the sensible thing to do. Actually it is the smart thing to do. Get a part time job after school and start saving up.
And one last thing, TALK to your mom and dad.
As far as your CRUSH. It is ok to have a crush on a person who is older then you. In fact, I would state that is is quite normal. As long as you understand that IT is a crush. I still have a crush on Sean Connery, have for uh maybe 25 years :) Know that what you feel when you see her, hear her voice... is a FRACTION of what you will feel once you met a girl who loves you for you. Who loves ALL of you.
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reader, Mary2012 +, writes (24 June 2009):
Problem #1: If it's your passion I say go for it, but have a back up plan in case it doesn't work out. Tty and help yor parents understand why you want to race and tell them about your back up plan! That should help them be more supportive. By the way, America is awesome and Indiana is the best place in America.
Problem #2: First of all try to not see her as often as possible. Second try and find some other girl you like and focus on her. If all else fails: find a big flaw in this girl and think about it every time you think about her!
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