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writes:I am/was (idk right now) with a guy and we havent hung out for a month and I guess I would bug him a lot about the next time we would hang out whenever he said we would soon and he never would be able to. this is also in summer so I dont see him every day in school any more so I was kinda getting impatient... and he would tell me we would hang out whenever I wanted to and I would say a day and he would say that he's busy that day and I would get mad about it cause the obvious... on facebook there where pictures of him hanging out with his friend and 2 other girls which shows he had time for his friends which I get but he says he's completely busy and has to get college stuff done and that I'm his number one whatever... and there was a suspicious comment on a photo he was tagged in about him being with another girl so I asked him about it (told him I was just asking... I didnt accuse) and then he told me I was too clingy and need to stop getting mad at stupid crap... I tried texting him 5 days after that but he wont text me back and he just wont talk to me and idk what to do...Was I being too clingy... and is there a way I can get him to talk to me and show him I'm not and fix this?
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reader, Miichelle139 +, writes (25 June 2009):
Miichelle139 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNo we havent HUNG OUT in a month...we've been together for a few months...he would also tell me he loved me (not like the one love but the love you get when your on your way i guess if that makes sense lol) and stuff so yeah it was seriousish
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (24 June 2009):
Like the others, I don't know if you were being clingy. But always asking "when" you guys would hang out next may be rubbed off on him as clingy. Sometimes you have to relax and let the guy do the work. Obviously you were showing and effort and he wasn't so it came off as clingy. However, this guy is obviously immature and a coward. Us girls want information NOW and want to know what's going on NOW and some guys just can't handle that. For now, just leave him be. If you keep trying to call/text him he'll keep ignoring you and then you'll just feel crappier. Let him come to you. Believe it or not, he probably has a conscience and knows he's being a jerk, so when he notices that you've completely backed off he'll probably try to get a hold of you. Then you can discuss things, but don't get too excited. Be calm and not too interested, but considerate all at the same time.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (24 June 2009):
 I don't know if you were being to clingy. But obviously he thought so.
Maybe he got in your face because you asked about the picture, maybe there is more to it them meets the eye. I think if there was nothing to the picture he wouldn't have gotten mad.
If he says he wants to spend time with you but turn you down when you mention a date, why don;t you tell him to PICK a day instead? That way if he really wants to see you he would make it happen.
And, STOP with the texting. Pick up the phone. If he doesn't answer, then the ball is in his court. If he answer he will HAVE to talk to you.
I think, ( and I'm' sorry to say so) that you have just been dumped by a guy, who doesn't have to GUTS to tell you.
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reader, Mary2012 +, writes (24 June 2009):
I don't think you were being clingy at all. It looks like he dosen't want to hang out with you. In my opinion you guys need a break from each other and maybe after a break you can try dating again!
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