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writes:2 years ago I moved 100 miles away from my hometown to be with my my partner after being together. Crazy I know but it worked! Until February this year when he left me and broke my heart. I'll admit the relationship was hard towards the end but I deffinitely wouldn't have given up. I stayed in the area mainly due to work and new friends and got a house with a work friend and another girl in a city close by. 4 months later he got back in contact and well.. we've been back together for 5 months now, living separately but very happy together. Last month I cheated on him on a drunken night out. The next day the guy was telling me he's gutted I have a boyfriend and definitely would be asking to see me again if I was single. I told him where he stood and that I love my boyfriend but it gave me a thrill.Last week I rang the guy I cheated on my boyfriend with at 2am on a night out to see what he was up to. I still don't know why I did now. Me and my boyfriend have a great sex life and I lo've him with all my heart but I'm always thinking about sex with other people and being wanted and desired. I've lost 4 and 1/2 stone in 10 months and my confidence is sky high but I'm so confused. I've just signed up for another 6 months at this house but the girls said we'll see what we want to do after these 6 months. I'm assuming hinting that I'll be moving back in with my boyfriend. Which I do really want to do but I think 6 months is no tome at all and that absolutely scares the hell out of me! Help please :( (p.s. my boyfriend knows about me cheating on him last month, I told him straight away)
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reader, confused-angel +, writes (4 November 2014):
confused-angel is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks so much for the answer! Its not that I have a problem with my house mates.. it's more determining the reason I got a cheap thrill from cheating when I'm honestly head over heels with my boyfriend. In some ways, I honestly want to get a new house together & start a family etc. My heart melts when I walk past baby stuff in shops. But in other ways, I dont feel ready to grow up and I want to carry on having random sex! our relationship broke up because we lived with someone else and he was constantly stiring Shit between us but I guess we realised when it was too late. Can I possibly be in love whilst wanting to have sex with others? Is that possible? P.s. me and my boyfeeind have a brill sex life, that's why I'm even more confused!!!
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reader, SimpleSoul +, writes (4 November 2014):
 Well there aren't that many people who would have the guts to move 100 miles to be with a partner. You broke up, you got back together. You got a thrill from cheating, and thinking about other fantasy partners. You had lost a drastic amount of weight, and you are not happy with your flatmate relationships.To be honest I think you are just beginning to find yourself in your new personna, albiet so much less of you. You suddenly have confidence, realize that the world is your oyster and are getting a thrill out of the attention.Don't blame you, so well done, perhaps the flat mates are a bit envious, I would move on now if I were you, new flat, new life and when it happens new love life,unless your present one is worth saving. Why did it break up? Why was it hard towards the end? Think about it, or come back to me. all good wishes.
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