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*avyn26
writes: ok so were the 1st 9 weeks into school and have developed unexpressed feelings for the new girl. she is very pretty and shy!!! now that u know a bit lets start from the beginning of the year i talked alot of crap on the other guys because im the starting running back on the football team but id never would talk crap on girls not raised that way. but she didnt like all the crap i talk. i also used to joke with about how she never talks and now she thinks i dont like her btw is so untrue she has been the last thing i think about before i go 2 sleep and the 1st when i wake up. but she think none of guys in our school like her and she dont know y we wouldnt like her. witch sucked to hear because thats my crush and i cant do anything about it because im horrible with girls. but the good news is she thinks im funny. does anyone have advice on how to earase what ive did and become friends and see were it goes from there. all advice appreciated thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2014): Maybe as she is shy she is quite sensitive, and probably finds any bravado act with the guys quite hurtful, especially if she thinks it could be about her or could be in the future. She could also be sensitive about her shyness, as its her insecurity that your drawing attention to. You can still have banter and a laugh with your guy friends without talking about others like that. It sounds to me like you need to be real with yourself and figure out what kind of guy you want to be, as other people have also said. If she thinks that she can trust you she will much more likely want to be your friend. Just be nice and considerate of her, real with yourself and everything will work itself out. I'm guessing she just doesn't want to be criticized or misplace her trust.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (3 November 2014):
You can't ERASE what you have done, but you CAN show her that you have changed and maybe matured a little.
Every actions created a REACTION and ever ACTION has consequences.
But instead of trying to be someone you really aren't why not figure out why you think talking trash about other (even if it's only guys) is OK for you. Would you like for other to talk that way about you? JUSt so they can get some attention?
Figure out what kind of GUY you want to be and then WORK on BEING that guy.
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (3 November 2014):
It appears that you have some trouble expressing yourself. You hide behind bravado and bluster. You also tend to rely on technology for communication. Your best bet would be to work on yourself.
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