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writes:I was sexually assualt by a friend who i thought was a good friend at secondary school he did unspeakable things to me. and said some nasty things, now words trigger things of or comments. It caused me so many problems then. I eventualy went to my tutor and talk to him about it. But i didn't want to involve the police or my parents. So there was nothing that could be done. I still had to sit in the same classes as him and everything, it was torture hearing his voice and everything. But i didn't want people to know. Why me. It was two years ago now and i still can't get over it. I am now well away from him at a different college but i still live in the same area. i still see him on occassions. I'm so scared just to walk down a street am constantly looking over my shoulder. I often break down in my bf's arms. he tries his hardest to comfort me. but its like adding a band aid to a gunshot wound. 2 mounths after i was assualt i started to get perved on by one of my coaches at a sports club. he asked me to have threesom. spanked me and all sorts. i had to make it stop so told my parents. i stopped playing sport. but they called me all sorts of names. slag whore and everything. screamed at me. But it wasn't my fault. i don't wear skimpy clothes or anything. it wasn't my fault. I now can't tell my parents anything i just can't.But i keep thinking its goign to happen again. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI have found someone who i can go to and talk to about it allthanks for your help
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (24 October 2007):
 This is a great site, don't get me wrong, but we are not professional therapists and I'm sure there is one at your college. They keep everything you tell them in strictest confidence. You have a very serious problem and a professional will be able to help you overcome it. Please check it out Honey.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI want as little people to know who know me as possible. and am not even sure if my college does have counciling. i dunno. i just don't want people to find out. I don't want everyone knowing. talking on here is easier than in person (people don't know me). i dunno. everyone who i have seemed to have told so far seems to thrawt me in some way.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (24 October 2007):
Honey you've written to us numerous times, and as you've been told numerous times, you need to get yourself to some counseling. You won't be able to resolve this yourself or through this forum. If you can't go through your parents then go to the school counselor. It's their job to see to it that you receive help. Check into it today.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2007): Oh you poor thing. Don't you for one second let anyone tell you that it was your fault. It is unfortunate, but there are people in this world who will take advantage of people they see as vulnerable. After the first shock of your 'friend' doing that to you it is no surprise as to how you are, but darling you do need to get over it.
You are in a difficult situation. It is hard on you for your parents to shout at you, but you need to try and talk to them again. They need to understand that it was not your fault and you need their support. Your closest friends should be there to help you too.
If you are scared of going out try to always go round with friends, or your current bf - who seems quite understanding.
Lastly - none of this was your fault. Be confident in yourself. You are a good person and it was horrible that it had to happen. Maybe to stop you from thinking about it keep yourself busy with new hobbies or hanging out with close friends.
I hope all this helps.
Good luck x
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2007): Both of these people saw you as a vunerable target. Why on earth did you not want the police or your parents involved? All you did was protect the people that were in the wrong.
I feel that you need to see a proffessional person, psychotherapist to speak through your issues with. They will try and make you accept what has happened and move on and hopefully report those involved. They should allow you to get everything off your chest in confidence and advise you on how you can move on from your trauma.
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