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writes:A year and a half ago, I left my home and my family to immigrate and be with the man I was in love with. We married, moved in together, got a cat etc. I thought we were happy, and I suppose in the beginning we were. But he told me about a month ago that it was over, that he had fallen out of love with me. He told me I had 2 weeks to leave the house. I was not able to work legally, I had no savings, I had no job and I had nowhere to go. He was my everything, and once he was gone I was totally, and I mean 100% alone. I knew nobody else in the entire country - all his friends sided with him and spoke badly of me behind my back. And now, I feel so heartbroken that I can barely get through a day without crying. I feel like I've been thrown away. I haven't got a single friend in the world, my parents are not really concerned with what happens to me, and the one person I thought loved me has tossed me aside. I don't even have a bed to sleep on. I am battling to find work, and I feel like I'm falling to pieces. I don't know if anyone can really help me. I just needed to vent. I feel so alone and sad right now. I just want the pain to stop.
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reader, Your friend  +, writes (16 June 2009):
 The comments made by "Old Guy' is good advice but you did not mention which country you immigrated to as this is important so we can give you the appropriate advice. Get back if you can and let us know so your problem can be properly assessed. On this site you are not alone, you will find plenty of friends and lots of support. Until you work out what to do it would be a good idea to keep in contact with us, whether you contact one or more of us directly or continue to respond as you are now. Give us more information eg the country you are in at the moment, where your family live, your relationship with them, did you have any friends at work, what did you do eg job or home person etc write down as much as you can and out of it you might find some light and somewhere in the light there will be a solution. We will all wait for your answers.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2009): You might try calling a women's shelter in your area. They can probably find you a bed for at least a short while. More importantly, they can direct you to service agencies who can help, and can provide counselling. Most likely the services can be provided at no cost to you. Even if you're not legally entitled to work, you may be eligible for provincial social assistance -- again, the shelter counsellors can steer you in the right direction.
Most large cities also have immigrant aid organizations, which will be a further resource for you.
I'm sorry you find yourself in this situation. Do reach out to the community -- I think you'll be surprised at how much help is available.
Good luck.
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