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writes:Hello everyone. I have a question that a lot of people probalby ask, and i've never posted on here before but some advice would be greatly appreciated :).Basically, I wanna know how to talk to women. I am a virgin, never been kissed etc. so i've never had a girlfriend. I didn't bother me much before, but now im at the stage where i think there may be something wrong with me. I've always said that i'm ugly, but no ones ever told me I am, and I can't ask anyone to rate me as I don't have a picture...lol but I think that its just to do with me having absoloutely no self esteem or confidence whatsoever.Sooo, what do you say when you approach someone. I see girls I like all the time, but I could never go up to them. I always try and see if theres any signs that there interested, but I never see any so I always thought it wasn't a good idea lol. I have female friends, but I feel okay speaking to them because they are just friends. I have started working out, i'm an art student so I'd say im okay at painting etc, I enjoy martial arts, so I always try and do things to help myself and meet new people, but it seems no one is ever interested :S. I'm not sure if cheesy chat up lines would be the best way to go :P, but yeah, any advice would be wonderfull :)Cheers!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2012): I consider myself to be an introverted art student as well. Once I got into classes that required out-of-class work, I would go to the studio at night and work with whoever else happened to be there. That's where I met a lot of my art-major friends, both guys and girls alike. We would get to working, give eachother advice, and talk about whatever else that happened to come up. I think we're in a major that lends itself to building friendships more easily than if you were an accounting major, etc. Use your art as a conversation piece, it will not only help your social skills, but it will allow you to gain more perspectives on your artwork. Also, the people you meet will likely share some common interests with you!
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reader, BondGirl72  +, writes (16 September 2012):
 Also, never being kissed and being a virgin has nothing to do with anything. I have never cared about that with anyone I've been with. That is just my perspective.
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reader, BondGirl72 +, writes (16 September 2012):
You talk to women the same way you talk to everyone else. You take an interest in them, smile, and act friendly. I am not sure why this is such a mystery for men. That is, unless you're always surrounded by women who are mean to you. There are a lot of women who don't like men. If you get one of those, just move on.
The best advice I can give you is take an interest in other people. I workout a lot too, and I have had men come to the gym, and the first day I see them...they ask me out. I'm not sure how other women work, but I don't want to be asked out the first time I meet you. I want you to show you're interested in me. Ask me about my workout, tell me you need some new music on your IPOD and ask me what I'm listening to, etc. Just go for the basics and you will start developing friendships/relationships with people. If a woman is interested, she will want to talk to you and be near you. Some of us may be hesitant, but don't let that deter you. I hated my current boyfriend because everytime I saw him he said something cocky or acted cocky. Once I got to know him just through talking about daily stuff, that was it.
So, just be yourself, be friendly, and talk.
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