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writes:my girlfriend is really starting to detach herself from me and it is really starting to bother me. i was wondering, since weve been together for two months now, ive been realizing that she has almost broken up with me twice and i really love her ive had a really bad string of relationships and ive already promised to marry her in two years from now. but if things keep going the way theyre going i fear that she will break up with me and i realy dont know what id do if that were to happen to me. i know that she thinks that i stay continuously mad at her when i dont. she is the only girl ive ever wanted to stay with for the rest of my life. and i know that thats true love because the ability to stay with somebody through all that is true love. i need help with what to do because i am absolutely clueless. so please if some body can give me some decent advice: i welcome all suggestions. so plese help. thank you. Reply to this Question
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reader, fishdish +, writes (19 December 2009):
 i don't know if this is the best relationship you can have. i know you have feelings for her, but you were insecure in the relationship because she was so fickle, and now you want to go back to that? what has changed? i don't think she is good enough for you, her playing hot and cold is her way of keeping the interest alive for her, while for you it is actual interest and love to begin with that is motivating you to go back to her, and that's not right.
what's this about your sister, she stopped her from hooking up with you, or vice versa? what is your sister's take on the situation? sometimes family has good insights.
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reader, badstringrunnner +, writes (19 December 2009):
badstringrunnner is verified as being by the original poster of the questionshe broke up with me and was going to hook back up but my sister stopped wat do i do
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reader, badstringrunnner +, writes (15 November 2009):
badstringrunnner is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhey thanks for the advice ill try that
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reader, fishdish +, writes (15 November 2009):
okay. you've been together 2 months. It's really...rash to declare your intent to marry this girl after 2 months, i'm not trying to judge, I'm trying to tell you that sometimes, it takes a little bit for couples to show their true colors. I know in my relationship, I was a version of myself that was..super happy, cause it was a new relationship it was exciting and different, etc., but the newness wears off. it could be that she's trying to figure out how she feels about that? or it could be that this is actually her personality, or that you are into it more than she is.
I would ask her how she feels about you right now, if she sees herself w/ you in the future. It's important to keep communication up and you don't have to bring up these previous near-breakups but you should say you're concerned that she seems distant or not like herself but it doesn't seem like she's into it.
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reader, badstringrunnner +, writes (15 November 2009):
badstringrunnner is verified as being by the original poster of the questionany help is greatly apreciated
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