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writes:This is sort of just your typical does she like me question but I have no idea if I'm completely misinterpreting the situation.I live in a large shared flat with this girl who I've come to have a massive thing for. We came from a similar area and we get on really really well. A few nights ago we were out drinking and a few of us came back to my room for a wind down. We were sat talking and in my drunken state I hardly noticed that me and this girl had fallen into a really cosy embrace. She had her arm around me and was holding me and other people were starting to comment. They went to bed and I was left nursing butterflies in my stomach.The next night we had a party and me and this girl were left at the end, the only two left drinking together. She was resting her legs on me in a casual way and we were getting really close. We started to talk about my girlfriend and her boyfriend. I mentioned that (and this is true) I'm in a very very unhappy relationship with someone that isn't going to last much longer. She revealed the same to me. She also agreed with me that it was frustrating to know that she couldn't tell anyone she liked how she really felt. We both got very uncomfortable with the situation and began to clean the flat, for a laugh and to distract ourselves. We have sat out together and night and stargazed and we really make each other laugh.My issue with this is I really like this girl but I have no idea if she likes me. Is it always the drink? Or does she just see me as the infamous 'friend'. Or is she falling for me in the way I'm falling for her. Shes much prettier than I am to, but I can make her laugh.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 October 2008): First off it is disturbing that you are both in "unhappy" relationships. Neither of you are married, so why then don't you break off your relationships and remain uninvolved with anyone for a time instead of using each other as a crutch to get over a failed relationship or to gain courage enough to break up you unhappy love affairs.
This is two needy people getting drunk in order to "grease the wheel" so that something can "happen" instead of making a conscious decision to date this person because there is a mutual attraction and because you are both free to date. If you really like her and you want this to work out, then take it slow and remain ONLY her friend. Be a man and set your girlfriend free before you even think about getting romantically involved with this girl....she also is most likely looking for something on the side, or a way out of her current relationship without having to go it alone and gain some independence. None of this is a recipe for success.....do what you will, but that is my advice.
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reader, arlene88 +, writes (11 October 2008):
It seems to me as if she likes you as well but you will never know the truth unless you ask her. But when you talk make sure she knows that you still want to be friends. If you are comfortable with that so that if she doesnt feel the same and it is the drink then at least you will still have her in your life as a friend. but you will never know how she really feels until you talk to her. Hope my advice helps xxx
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