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writes:I'm in a Long distance relationsip (1 year and 5 days, 123 miles away) I've seen her 3 times, I gave her a rose when we met the 3rd time, We're going to meet up every 2 weeks from next year, is it over the top to give her a rose EVERY time I see her?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2010): As people have said before, it would be a sweet notion to get her a gift everytime that you see her; however, to caveat on the predictability this brings there is also a seed you plant in her head.
This seed would grow with each gift and after the giving of, say, your 7th gift, she no longer cares about the thought but, rather, expects it. What happens after that? Well, if she expects a gift everytime, and you forget...you've just given her a reason to get upset, and rocky roads aren't great when traveling long distance - if you catch my drift.
A gift every so often would be great...every time and you're just setting yourself up for failure in the future.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2010): dont make promises you cant keep up with because in the end it might do more harm than good....
when you feel like giving her a rose just do it
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2010): I think it's a sweet idea and it's great that you care about her that much. However if you do this EVERYTIME you see her it will get predictable and she may begin to appreciate it less and less. If you want to surprise her everytime you see her have you considered switching it up? A card one time, a sweet note or teddy bear the next. That way you aren't being predictable and it will keep her on her guessing what you are going to do next.
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reader, lucy.whittaker +, writes (14 December 2010):
 Heya,
While that's a pretty cute idea, you're right, it might be a little over the top. I'd save the roses for special occasions, such as anniversaries and birthdays. Might also turn out to be pretty expensive after a while.
Maybe you could bring one the next time you see her and say you wish you could bring her one every time you see her to show how you feel, make a little joke out of it. I think the sentiment might make more sense than the action, and I'm sure she'd be very touched. I would be if my boyfriend told me that!! But I'd be a little confused if he really went through with it. Good Luck!! :)
Lucy XxX
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reader, kenny +, writes (14 December 2010):
 I think its fantastic that you both have got feelings for each other that are strong enough to withstand a long distance relationship. And to answer your question i don't think it is over the top atal to give her a rose everytime you see her, i am sure she will love it.
Good Luck
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