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writes:A general question for men.What would be the general reaction of a man if the woman he is involved with doesn't have much experience with men?? Would he rather have someone who knows how to be a pro-in bed or would he have the patience to take it slowly and let her learn things in her own pace??Do men have patience in today's world and wait for a good romance in their life or are they so eager that they have lost that concept completely? Do men ever actually recognise the potential of a good romance these days or does that not exist anymore as they constantly fall for lust? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2008): Hi - can't answer for anyone else but myself, except to say that all the relationship books my wife and I read say things about us that we both agree are true, which makes us feel pretty "normal."
I personally can't think straight unless my sexual needs are under control, i.e. I am getting a release on a regular basis. How often a guy needs the release varies from guy to guy. I would say as long as a woman (who turns me on - this is important) is willing to be a partner in my need, I am more than willing to be a partner in HER need, whatever that is. If it's patience and education, hey, bring it on. Some of my most cherished memories are of teaching women things about sex - what more could a guy ask for than a custom-made sex partner?
Yeah, there's a lot of room in my heart for an inexperienced partner as long as she's happy and willing.
If she's not willing, I'm going to probably backpedal out of it and move on without forcing it.
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reader, daletom  +, writes (25 January 2008):
I'd favor a less experienced partner.
My wife & I were 22-yr old virgins when we met and we've done our sexual learning and exploring together. We held off on intercourse until we were married, but in the last few months of being engaged we did a lot of fooling around and "everything but ...".
At that age I wasn't dead set that I would only marry a virgin, but I would have to be convinced that our married sex-life would be somehow more special than whatever she had experienced with previous partners. It would have been harder for her to convince me of that if she was a real "pro" at the physiological mechanics of sex.
Popular culture (at least in the U.S.) likes to promote an unrealistic and inaccurate concept of romantic love, that strikes me as closer to infatuation. I think a lot of people go looking for that romantic vision, not realizing that there's more to it. Even so I think there are guys with a touch of romance in them. My (unmarried) oldest son may be one.
I recently watched the movie "Hotel Rwanda" and was absolutely stunned by the relationship between the hotel manager and his wife. They had dinner by candlelight - and they also had shouting arguments verging on fist-fights. And beyond all that, I think they have a true "the two shall become one" kind of marriage.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2008): Well I'm currently waiting for marriage to have sex so I would want the woman I finally give myself to to have waited as well. I think it would be exciting to gain experience with her.
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reader, ArabianPrince  +, writes (25 January 2008):
For a wife I want a decent woman and will be patient and teach her as time passes, but as a girlfriend or prostitute, I will definitely want a PRO!
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