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writes:My sex drive is much bigger than my boyfriends. We've talked about it before, and he says that he likes to 'save it up' because it feels better when he cums if he doesn't have sex everyday. I would definitely prefer having sex more often than every other day, but I love him and decided I can live with having less sex.A couple days ago, he left for a 1 night business trip. We has sex the night before he left. But the next night, he was looking up porn and masturbating. This bothers me because my own needs aren't met and he tells me he can't have sex 2 nights in a row (we have maybe a total of 5 times ever). If I'm compromising on my own sexual needs because he says he can't.. and then as soon as he's away, he's looking at other women and getting off again... well, it makes me feel like he does want more sex, just not with me.We're in the middle of planning our wedding and he tells me he can't wait to marry me, but this has me worried (btw, this isn't the first time, just the most recent). It would be different if we always had a ton of sex or if I had a lower sex drive and he had to masturbate to keep himself satisfied.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2008): I just can't imagine a guy wanting masturbation over a girlfriend if she wants to have sex. I only do that if my wife isn't in the mood for sex for a couple of days. Maybe it's because I can't relate to a guy doing that, but there is something wrong here. Now, if he has only done that while away on a trip or away from you, then I can understand it. I can be somewhat sexually satisfied by just cuddling and fondling my wife in bed. However, if I were not with her, then that would not be available and I would need to take care of myself if I wanted sex. If he is only doing it when he is away, then look at the bright side. He is not looking for someone else. If he is doing it when you are available and you want sex, then there is something wrong with his thinking.
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reader, XxAngelDust89xX +, writes (25 January 2008):
 Um.... your sure you wanna marry this guy right? it sounds like hes married to his hand. I dont belive a word of what hes said. you need to sit down with him a find out the REAL problem. I would also putting the wedding plans off for a bit. I belive that never go to bed angry applies to your wedding night as well. Me and my husband sloved all of our problems before we got married so we could start our new lives together with clean slates. Suggest this idea t ohi . He may like it.
Hope it works out!!
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