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writes:this may be a weird one just to warn you :] when me and my boyfriend are together he likes me to slap him because it "turns him on" is this okay? I mean I don't want to hurt him if I do...I feel really bad about it. Is this like a pain fetish??thanks in advance :] Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2008): Well in a little way it is, people like to do it because it sparks up stronger emotions and urges, and it makes it more fun. But of course you can't go overboard, always make sure your partner is ok with it and if you ever go into some real crazy things like for example dominatrix (not that im saying that it would lead to that haha) always have a safe word ;) haha. But seriously its not a bad thing to get a little rough, it make sex more enjoyable when you go crazy a little ;)
Hope that answers your question :)
-Cheers!
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reader, Uncle Sneaker +, writes (3 June 2008):
 It's probably more of a power-exchange/domination fetish than a pain fetish.
It's not weird. It's very common. Many, many people enjoy those sort of "games". Just watch out that you don't slap him hard enough to do any damage, and come back when you're at an appropriate age for more details and I'll be happy to give you some ideas that will probably work well for you and your boyfriend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2008): Some people like it... It turns some people on, as it does to your boyfriend!!
It's fine if you enjoy too. If you're really put off by the idea then tell him. If not then slap away... It's not going to caise him any damage and you might have a little fun doing it yourself... Don't feel bad about it because he likes it.
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reader, Queeny  +, writes (3 June 2008):
 i am just sad..... that's it... 13-15 years old you both are?? i don't even know wat to say.. i hope you are not expecting people with a reasonable acquired number of years & life experience to advice you on what best positions and fetishes are applicable during pre-mature sex. anyone above 18 advicing this young people on hw to get it on is jus part of the sadness... all i can say is i hope you can wait jus a little bit when you are older and readier. don't want to grow so fast...hope you don't reap with regret from this early engagement in serious sex.
all the same use contraceptives - condoms for protection of sexually transmitted diseases. i am sorry for you guys i can't advice more.
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reader, aphexinfinite +, writes (3 June 2008):
 OO your a bit young though arnt you ? im just hoping that if anything you are using contraceptive :| aphexy xx
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reader, aphexinfinite +, writes (3 June 2008):
no i wouldnt say its a pain fetish unless he has more to tell you..everyone like a bit of a slap and tickle *hehe* so just enjoy be happy :) aphexy
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reader, lotus mama808  +, writes (3 June 2008):
 Not strange. Some people like it, because during sex, you experience such pleasure, that pain is actually not so painful. I like my butt to be slapped ONLY during sex. Otherwise...OUCH!
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