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writes: I need a little help and understanding from the baby mothers. I’ve been with the same guy for the last 6 ½ years. He has three children before he met me. One 18,11 and almost 7. The mother of the youngest apparently hasn’t gotten it through to her head that over and there is no chance for him and her to rekindle their relationship. . At the beginning she used to tell me that they would end up together because they were meant to be together. I just thought she was delusional and this would eventually pass. But it hasn’t. She is currently involved with someone but that doesn’t stop her from flirting and sent sending text too him that is not regarding his daughter. . He lets me read and all her messages to ensure me that it’s her who initiates these kinds of conversations. She sent him picture of herself before she went out. I thought it was inappropriate, regardless of whether she was dressed or not. He told her that wasn’t cool and she said that it’s was me who didn’t want him to have it and she felt she could sent her “baby daddy” a picture of her when she felt like it. He would completely cut her off if it wasn’t for his daughter. She is using her to her advantage.. What is the best way to deal with her? I don’t want to respond directly because I believe it’s his responsibility since it’s his baby mother.
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reader, raiders  +, writes (22 October 2010):
 His daughter will always be a part of his life and his ex should not use her to get close to him but I feel if you get involve right now its going to cause for her not to bring her daughter around at all. I suggest you let him deal with this and once you two are engage you will probably have more right to talk to her women to women regarding the child. At that point you will able to explain to her that you two will be married and you want the child to be part of his life. That you will not get in the way of their relationship but that you would like for her to be more respectful when talking to him since he is going to marry you she should respect you and your relationship. Let her know that the behavior is disrespecting you and it has to stop.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThats just it. We plan to get married soon. We just fear that, that may cause more distance between him and his daughter.
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reader, raiders +, writes (22 October 2010):
since he is your boyfriend and not your husband the best way to deal with it is the way you did it. You show class in not getting involve this is his problem right now and he should deal with it.
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