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writes:I've had some issues in the past when it comes to sexuality (imposed affection from an older brother). But now that I am 18 and should probably be thinking of romance, I'm finding it almost impossible to execute it. I've been asked out before and gone on numerous dates. I want to have a boyfriend and yet I don't. I want to have someone who I can trust for once and yet I don't want to be touched by them or even looked at by them.I have no doubt that what happened in my past is playing out now, but I do not know how to get over this. Please help. Reply to this Question
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (17 November 2010):
 To get over something like this, you need to see a counselor who has experience in dealing with abuse victims. Yes, you are a victim of abuse, and now need to learn how to survive this in a healthy way. Call your doctor if you need a referral to a practitioner or you could look for a referral here:
http://apps.rainn.org/ohl-bridge/
I'm afraid I'm not qualified or knowledgeable enough to help, most of us here are just regular people who like to help out simpler relationship issues. You have something deeper that needs a professional. Don't stint on your recovery and your mental health. You are worth getting the best!
Good luck, and take care.
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